ADVICE ON MY BOYFRIENDS EX! Am I being Unreasonable??
Hi everyone, I just started this site and I would really appreciate some advice because I feel like I am going through some type of depression or something! I have been wih my boyfriend for five years now. We have a two year old boy together. However, my boyfriend has two more boys who are 7 and 8 from a previous relationship with a girl he met in high school. They were only 14 years old when they had their first son together.
Ever since I have been with my boyfriend, his ex has done nothing but talk trash about me and my family who she never met. I never did anything to this girl and I was very nice to her when I bumped into her. Once I had my son three years into our relationship, that was the first time she finally left me alone and stopped texting me mean things. Now, she acts like she never did anything mean to me.
Now the other part to this is that my boyfriends family have always been very close to her. My boyfriend is not though, he has no communication with her at all. His family used to ask me to leave or to hide my car when ever she would come over to his house. (This was before I had my son with him). I was really hurt and once his sister said, " I wouldn't want to see my ex boyfriend with his girlfriend".
Up to this day, my boyfriends mother takes pictures of my bf and his ex together with their kids, the ex is always at his mother's house just hanging out, she comes to every single family function and I have to share it with her and his family which makes me really uncomfortable. They know that I do not like her being around but they still always invite her. The mother never invites me on outings but always invites the ex. His sister calls the ex her "sister", and goes out with her all the time as well but never invites me out.
The ex has done very mean things to his family as well. For instance, she stole the mothers jewelry worth thousands that they found out she had pawned. She constantly takes away his two boys from them, and will not answer anyones calls when they call her. His family talks so much trash to my face about her but act like they love her to her face. I am so fed up with dealing with his family choosing her over me. I was always so nice to his family and I put up with her and everyone knew how much I hated it. Now I just feel like they only care about her feelings and not mine. So I just want to stop all communication with his family. But, his mother helps me out with my son a lot like buying him clothes. I feel like I am the ex and she is his gf. Sometimes I will not even show up to family functions because she is going to be there and they do not care that I do not go. What do I do? Am I being immature? Thanks for any advice!!