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spanking?

Posted by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 10:36 PM
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What is your opinion on spanking? Yes? No? When do you feel it is appropriate to give them? How often? I have heard different stories from different people and I'm just wondering how everyone feels and if they use this method.

by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 10:36 PM
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raegan1221
by Bronze Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 10:38 PM
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 Yes, I agree with them as a last resort. Spanking more hurts feelings than actually physically hurts most times. There's a line between spanking and abuse and people need to be very careful not to cross it, and to never use spanking as a controlling/dominating role.

MrsApple
by Bronze Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 10:38 PM
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Spanking is a big no for us.I don't see it as an effective method of discipline at all.

Kris_PBG
by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 10:40 PM
We don't do that in our family.
Bleacheddecay
by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 10:41 PM
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I think spanking is a lousy way of trying to enforce rules with kids. I was spanked often and it made me, fearful, angry and sneaky.

Time out used right and the restriction of privileges is far more effect.

alexis_06
by AnnaLisa on Jan. 21, 2013 at 3:59 AM
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 i got spanked as a child and it did NOTHING for me..except make me think it was ok to hit.  i remember thinking why cant my parents just TALK to me..and EXPLAIN stuff..rather than just say "because i said so.." 

i used to spank my daughter (not often, because really, she was a good kid)...but one day when she was about 5 (shes 8 now), i was getting ready to smack her lil bum, and i looked at her..and i saw ME! and that fear in her eyes..omg..it just about killed me! i burst into tears..and hugged her and told her i would never spank her again. 

piwife
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:49 AM
I spank. Last resort. And actually we only spank mostly for lying. Other then that we use time outs, or workout drills, or writting drills, or doing chores. Or I take things away. Reason I don't spank that much is my kids rather get spank then have to do chores or the other stuff. So given the choice the choose the 2 swats on the butt
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superwoman8977
by Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:51 AM

I spank.  My children know I am the boss and they know what punishment is.  I dont redirect, timeouts, etc although I have begun taking away priviledges.  But my kids behave so I use less and less punishments

stacefaceninja
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:54 AM

We don't spank. 

 I just can't wrap my head around thinking it's ok to hit your children. Ever. I guess I'm just lucky and have good kids that don't need spanking. *takes a bow*

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JaniceMorrison
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 8:57 AM

The short answer - no, for me personally the moment when I need to spank my Liza is when I fault as a mother. Certainly I'm talking about myself only. 

momamanda
by Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 9:04 AM

I only spank when they won't listen and I need to get thier attention. Mostly just my 5 year old gets them now. Like when  she is playng outside and does something she is not suppose to do and I tell her to go inside and instead she runs away If I have to chase her she will get a spanking. If I put her in time out and she decides to get up before time out is over she gets spanked. it's always the last resort in my house.

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