I have no idea what to do. i am so stressed out its rediculous. so me and my husband moved into his parents house after they moved to PA. we have been living here for 2 yrs we pay home owners insurance and land taxes and fix things when they are broke. ever since we moved in if they dont like how we do something or if we dont listen to exactly what they say they keep telling us we can just move out. the house is in their name but me and my husband do everything we are supposed to as home owners yet one minute they say its our house and we can do whatever the next the say its still their house and what they say goes. its not like we are tearing the place up or anything like that. this has been going on for 2yrs and i have had enough im ready to move out but its the house my husband helped build with his dad and was always promised to him. i dont want to leave but i can not continue to be unhappy. we are damned if we do and damned if we dont with everything. i am loosing my patience with my kids now bc of stress and everything im greatful for the house and everything they have givn us but i dont want them running our lives and dictating our every move. i feel like im being smothered and i try so hard to please them but nothing i do works. im at a loss. my kids are feeling the stress and anger i have and im to the point of seeing a phsycologist about this but i dont want it to come to that. should we just move and get away from the situation or should i just go to therepy and work it out with myself to stop worrying about all of this and get my emotions under control? sorry this is so long. i really need some advice.
Or I would move. When his parents want to pass the house down to him, with his name on the deed and without the controling your household issue, you can move back.
thanks im just feeling like there is nothing i can do. it helps to know im not the only one who has felt like this and im not being irrational about all of this.
Quoting stargaze281:
no Hun , you don't need to see a psychologist. your reactions are pretty normal. no one likes to be smothered and criticized, and your inlaws are just critical people. you need to have a good talk with your dh, and tell him how you feel and your wishes. if the stress is too much then the best idea would be for you, dh, kids is find a place of your own to live in. try to also not let the stress get to you so much, try to stay calm. stress Is not healthy.
Oh Yourwelcome. Why isnt there anything you can do? Are you and/or dh working? If you cant live in your inlaws place anymore, then search for an apartment. But, I am only trying to say follow your gut and communicate. Good luck with your inlaw problem.
Quoting ilahall:
thanks im just feeling like there is nothing i can do. it helps to know im not the only one who has felt like this and im not being irrational about all of this.
Quoting stargaze281:
no Hun , you don't need to see a psychologist. your reactions are pretty normal. no one likes to be smothered and criticized, and your inlaws are just critical people. you need to have a good talk with your dh, and tell him how you feel and your wishes. if the stress is too much then the best idea would be for you, dh, kids is find a place of your own to live in. try to also not let the stress get to you so much, try to stay calm. stress Is not healthy.
so basically you guys do not pay anything but the taxes and insurance right??
sometimes in laws can act strange but they do not live in the same house right??
I would either leave or talk to DH and see if we couldn't put together a plan to try to buy the house.
Start working on a plan and set a timetable. I would recommend NOT telling the in-laws until you are ready, because they can and will make your lives MORE miserable when they realize they are losing control over you.
Question about an 11 year old
- ilahall
on Jan. 20, 2013 at 10:41 PM