There have been alot of changes in my daughters short life (she is 9) . Her father left. We had a roommate and her children for awhile and then they moved out. I went thru a funk and was working alot before, during and after those things happened. And recently I started dating. My boyfriend and her get along well even though she does have seperation and jealousy issues she is getting better.
Anyways, I have managed to get slack on things that I swore I never would be when I had kids (shocker..lol) and I am trying to find a way to get us all on track. Things with me and the BF are getting a little serious and we have talked of the what ifs of living together and somethings that we would like to see change a bit with my daughter. He understands that she has been thru alot and we both want to work together to get her to where we thing she should be ( I apologize if that sounds crass, Im just not sure how to word what I am thinking)
I have been really bad about letting her slack on things like helping me with the house, cleaning her room and such. She isnt the greatest at listening , has a tendancy to sometimes be a little lippy, and she is super clingy. (that one we understand because of the changes in the family dynamics) I want to start getting all of us on the same page, working together to make all of us more comfortable together and to make her more responsible for her actions.
I guess what I am asking is if anyone has any experience with this kind of stuff and/or has some insight as to what I can do, I would like to start an allowance kind of thing and I fear I may be to late. Please help me help her...
Please and thanks in advance