My friend's fiance recently broke up with her, he seems to be playing with her feelings. He goes from definitely not wanting to make things work, to agreeing to see a marriage counselor, to threatening to kick her out if they can't come to an agreement on custody.
Granted, I only know the situation from her point of view, and she tends to be the "poor me" type, but it seems like he has found someone else, but wants to keep on good terms with her so that he can get back with her later.
HER stance goes from definitely thinking it will work out, to needing to get her shit together to prepare to be split up. But she hasn't done one damn thing to prepare.
I keep telling her she needs to speak to a lawyer to find out what rights she has, she needs to get temporary assistance, look at apartments, and find a job! She agrees but never does anything. I want her relationship to work out, but it doesn't seem realistic. I'm the only friend she has, so what I say to her is really important, and I'm losing my drive to help since she won't do anything I suggest. I think she just wants me to tell her it will all work out. I don't want to push her away so she feels like she has no one to confide in...
My question is: Should I just tell her what she wants to hear and let her vent to me, or should I push harder for her to do what she needs to, even though she's not listening?