My SO went out for a "couple of drinks" at 10pm. She then shows up at 2 with 3 of her friends who need to stay the night becuase they are drunk and can't drive. She doesn't get why i'm pissed and told me that since i said something about being pissed (to her, not her friends) that her friends will think i'm a bitch. Excuse me for being worried when I think you are coming home in and hour or two and you show up 4 hours later. I don't care that your friends stay but a head's up would have been nice! Maybe I'm overreacting? I don't know. She hasn't spent time with me in days and promised we would cuddle tonight....but does 3 hours counts? Literally by the time she comes to bed it will be at least 3 am and I always wake up at 7. I have no control over my insomnia. Haven't slept in days because I can't sleep without her and she works overnights. I was really looking forward to time with her tonight and i feel like i got kicked to the bottom of the list....am i crazy to feel this way? Am i just supposed to act like i'm okay?
My gf and I were able to talk about everything this morning. She actually agreed with me that she was wrong to not communicate changes with me or ask before having people over. She never admits when she is wrong so wow! We set some new ground rules for going out to avoid this problem in the future. Thank you to all of you for your replies. It is true that I need to not rely on her for sleep and I will be going to the doctor for sleep aids. The insomnia is a fairly recent development and I'm scared of sleep aids because I am a full time student, I work full time, and I'm a full time dance mom plus my son, gf, and I do 5 hours each per week of volunteering at the animal shelter. There is simply not enough hours in the day to sleep for 8 hours all the time.