My son is 9. And on the bus he came to 3 other kids hitting him, pulling his hair, and scratching him. they were calling him names. As he kept turning around that is what the driver saw he was getting in trouble. He had finally had enough and we work on using his words ( that is a work in progress) and he has been told he can't fight back he just let out this worst high pitch scream he has. When asked to move he (at this point ) was so angry he went into a ball in the corner of the seat and refused to move, continued to yell at everyone. pushed people away that were tyring to remove him from the bus.
As they were finally able to get him off other kids started chanting at him and the other students were upset. Now parents are mad at him. I know he handled the situation wrong, but really what are are kids supposed to do in cramped spaces? why go after him. I have chosen to remove him from the bus for now. But really he was only defending himself the only way he knows how. I understand the other parents do not have all the facts. But still.
Please help.
You should also call the bus co and file a complaint as well, and let the school know what is going on with the bus...NO child should have to endure that kind of ride home...i've been a victim like that too. The school needs to come up with a plan for riding the bus without taunts and bullying and if they school can't do that, then it's their job to provide alternate transportation for your child--at least that is how it is here.
hell no! id be calling the bus garage, school, super intendant. and what the fuck are the bus people doing that they don't see this happening? its not like all that is done quietly. id be bitchin mama.
The driver did not know that eather. Not till they watched to viedo. My son is verry emotional and when mad he will not talk. The driver did go by just what he saw at the time.
. I know the bus is Fully packed, 3 to every seat and only one driver. I have allready talked to the bus and told the school. But they now have other parents calling in and said if my child is on the bus theirs will not. I am now afraid for him at school.
Set up a meeting at the school with those parents (and the parents of the bullies) and have them watch the video. Ask them what they would want to happen if that were their child.
This should never happen but we all know that it happens far to often in our schools. I would report this to the school, bus company and the school district to make them aware of what is being allowed to happen on the bus. Ask for a meeting with the parents of the other kids so they get an understanding of what happened and why your son responded the way he did.
You should certainly file a report with the school and bus company. Are you friends with any of the other parents on the bus that you could call and talk to them?
I'm not condoning anything and I don't know if there are other issues at hand, but have you thought about enrolling your child in something like martial arts - Not for the fighting, but for the confidence building? They are actually taught not to fight unless as a last resort, but are given confidence and skills to handle situations without using their fists.
Before my kids did martial arts, I told my kids to fight back if anyone laid a hand on them and that I didn't care if they got in trouble with the school for standing up for themselves. In second grade, a kid who bullied just about everyone in his class started in on my son. He knocked him down and when my son got up, the kid went to hit him in the face with his fist. My son clocked him before he could and ever since, no one bothered my kid again. In fact that little bully never bothered anyone again and became friends with my son later that year. Turned out the kid a lot of problems at home and was lashing out. Yes, he got in trouble at school for hitting someone, but he set a precedent for himself and had my support and that was more important. Granted, this was a very long time ago, before bullying was such an issue in this country, but I don't think I'd do things differently.
yes i did put him karate and 2 weeks he quit. I am not one to force them into things they don't like.I have found they work better if it something they want rather then pushing them into it. With the confidentiality laws at the school I do not know what parents are complaining. I know the other kids are go to have consequences and their parents have been notified. I have also told the principle at the school and she will handle more on Monday.
I think allot is the kids know how he will react and he will not fight back that is another reason why. My son loves to be the helper and make everyone happy. We have been working with him. I think the parents that are upset might be because he upset there kids and it might even hurt there ears. When you cram 60+ kids in a bread box with only one adult something is bound to go wrong.
Where's the school systems security? This is how it starts in elementary school, behind closed doors, so supervision where is it? This is why so many shooting are happening, because of bad, angered, emotinal issue children. We need to get our children protected. Especially when they are on a schools bus. Hire a senior, there duffer than those little snots that are causing the trouble.
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- rollinthunder6
on Jan. 27, 2013 at 8:10 AM