How mad would your DH/SO be if...(LONG rant)
If you accidentally left a poopy diaper on the changing table connected to the crib (if you had that type) when you had to get up at 3:50 am to change her and get her back to sleep, and then in the morning when he went in there she was eating the poop from the diaper and had it all over her. Ok, yes I know that is nasty, but it was an accident and I was half asleep when I ran in there to see why she was screaming. She normally sleeps through the night and is almost 9 months old. I was half asleep, changed her in the dark because I didn't want to wake my 4 year old, gave her a paci, sat on the couch in the living room with her, got her to sleep and went to bed.
I am very forgetful and always have been even when completely awake, so half asleep, yes I forgot about the poopy diaper on the changing table. She is pulling up on everything so she is able to reach the diaper that was left on the changing table connected to her crib even with the mattress at its lowest point. I think it is gross that she was eating the poop, but I told him ever kid at some point will probably manage to eat their poop regardless of how hard to try to prevent it.
The reason I ask is my boyfriend got so angry, he changed her, went and showered and said he was going out. He was obviously mad and I asked what was wrong. He said we'd talk about it when he got back. I asked where he was going and he said he didn't know yet but he needed to calm down. I could understand him being mad but this is the most angry he has ever become in the over a year we've been together. He never even mentioned anything about the diaper or anything even though I got up when he was changing her, he never said anything to me. He left and I kept trying to come up with what he could suddenly be so angry about.
I went into the kids room and saw the clothes he changed her out of and saw some poo on them and threw them in the washer. I remembered that I had accidentally left the diaper there that early morning and so I texted him to see if it was about the diaper. So then he proceeded to text me back about how she was eating the poop. I said i was sorry about it, but I couldn't understand why he was so mad. He went to his friend's house and was there for a few hours. I finally took the kids to run to the store, when we got back he was home. He seemed to not be mad anymore like nothing happened, but I actually was mad at this point because he had gotten so mad at me and just left. I didn't say much to him as I was still a little angry but didn't want to start anything since he seemed to not be mad.
Well that night (Friday) I was supposed to be going out with a friend for her 21st birthday party and he was going to watch the kids. He ended up going to bed at 6:30 and didn't wake up when I tried to get him up so I could go. I NEVER go out, it has been since October that I've been out with friends, since I've gone somewhere by myself. He wouldn't get up and I missed out on going to my friends birthday because I can't leave a 4 year old and almost 9 month alone while he sleeps in the bedroom...Well he goes and visits friends a couple times a week for a couple hours at a time without us, so I didn't think it was much to ask for him to watch the kids so I could go out this one time.
Well I was trying to get over this and Saturday he said he was going to run stuff to Goodwill and joked about possibly being gone a couple hours, then he does end up gong to another friends house...I was supposed to be meeting some friends as one is moving out of town, I was taking the kids with me and hoped he would come with me, but he stayed at his friend's for quite a while. It was about 4:00 when I was leaving and asked if he was coming with cause he wasn't home, and he says no he needs to go home and go to bed, yes he works overnights but I thought it was unfair that he always stays up to see other people but wasn't willing to stay up to go with me, it was supposed to be a group thing, my two friends and their guys and their kids...
Anyway, so I left a note last night for him to see on the counter before heading to work, I went ahead and went to bed while he was still sleeping and I knew we wouldn't have time to discuss anything so I just laid in bed, let him get up and go to work. I went back out after he left and he had taken the note with him. I basically explained what I was feeling and how we needed to talk about all this. Well he gets home from work this morning and he seems in a good mood. I woke up about 8:30 and started making pancakes and he got home about 9. We ate and watched a kids show with my 4 year old and then I figured we'd get a chance to talk, well he went to bed not long after and I feel like he was in a good mood and ready to talk, but went to bed far earlier than what he normally does. Now I'm sitting here trying to figure out what this is all about and won't get a chance to talk to him until he gets up right before work...ugh. He's always been so good about everything and we talk about everything and now it seems like he's blowing this one thing out of proportion. Would this really be this big of a deal for anyone else?