Naturalist mom needs help-Am I depriving my kids? I dont think so, but Mimi does!
Okay, first off Im a homeschooling, atheist, as green and natural as possible mom of two and a half. My oldest is four, second nineteen months and the third is due in July. I'll be twenty-eight this year. Im not new to being a mom, I was barely new to it when my first born came around thanks to the years and years of practice I already had with my godson and his three siblings and my brother who was six years younger. That said, my parenting style and my mother's are VERY different-my kids get maybe two hours of TV a day. Maybe. And thats only PBS, educational shows. We dont eat a lot of junk food in our house and when we do it's 'junk' like Raisenets, graham crackers, crackers and cheese, so forth. They get snacks like that and we have ice cream occasionally for dessert, but they prefer fruit as much as they do a cookie, which we do get maybe once a month. I dont buy juice very often-originally because it's so expensive but now because it's simply better for them to drink milk and water-they dont need a lot of juice, we do not have chips in this house, except the once every few months tortillia chips Daddy likes, no lollipops because I dont like hard candy. (They do get an occasional piece of chocolate or other candy, just not hard candy) They are happy! They eat GOOD food like fish, rice, steak and so on, and my little guy LOVES veges, which is nice since his brother is a battle to eat any. :-)
My mother disagrees with just about everything I listed above, including my religious status-she says 'you werent raised to be an atheist' as if that just makes my beliefs irrelevant. My little guy hasnt been gaining weight-hes been a slow grower since birth-and the doctor is watching him for that. I mention this to my mom and how Im working on giving him the 'healthy fats' like cheese and milk and whatever (any suggestions on that would be great) and she starts in on how 'a couple' cookies a DAY to add fat to his diet won't hurt them. I told her flat out Im not pumping him full of crap just to make him gain weight and she got all annoyed. She'll show up with two or three bottles of juice and say how 'they were on sale'. When I do buy juice, it's vege juice. We go to her house and she immediately turns on the TV and turns on whatever random kid's show she can find. I dont let them watch things I havent approved first. Then she constantly pushes me about new movies that came out, wanting me to get them and let my kid watch them without having a CLUE what they actually have in them-she goes by commercials alone. She acts like Im depriving my kids by not pumping them full of crap and letting them sit in front of the TV for hours watching whatever they feel like!
Sorry for the long post but shes been making me crazy and I needed to vent-any suggestions on how to deal with an impossible woman who does not listen to anyone and takes EVERYTHING personally? (Without compromising my own beliefs in the right way to raise my children!)