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The Ultimate Tipping Guide to 34 Different Situations So You Know What You Owe - Do you find tipping stressful?

Posted by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:48 PM
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The Ultimate Tipping Guide to 34 Different Situations So You Know What You Owe

Posted by Sasha Brown-Worsham on February 1, 2013 

tipping listFor some of us, tipping at a restaurant or salon or on a vacation is an activity fraught with so much drama and pain and annoyance and hand wringing. In some cases, it's SO stressful, you might not even want to go out at all.

Very often we are worried about giving too little. Or too much. Or being embarrassed.

The other day I was with a woman who tipped the cab driver, and afterwards he chased us down the street complaining about the amount. That was fun. As a consumer, the expectation of a tip often drives me crazy. Why should a person who does shoddy work get a tip?

Answer: Just because. You always tip. "Even if you are dissatisfied with your service, it's truly bad manners to withhold a tip," says Lisa Gaché, a nationally recognized etiquette expert in lifestyle,
entertainment, and family matters.

"As intimidating as it may seem, it's better to make mention of your dissatisfaction and at least give your service provider the opportunity to rectify the situation." We consulted two experts, both Gaché and Diane Gottsman, a national etiquette expert and the owner of The Protocol School of Texas, for a DEFINITIVE tipping list to make it clear exactly how much to tip the following 34 professions. See below for Gottsman's answers:

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Hotel Tipping:

  1. Doorman -- $1.00 to $2.00.
  2. Bellman -- $2.00 per bag.
  3. Concierge -- $5.00 to $10.00 on general service, and $20.00 and up for a hard to get restaurant reservation or tickets to a theatre performance.
  4. Spa treatment -- Hotels generally include gratuity in the bill (18 percent) so check first. 
  5. Housekeeping -- $5.00 per day, leave on the pillow to alleviate confusion; put in an envelope and label "Housekeeping," but don’t leave on desk, they won’t take it.
  6. Room service -- 20 percent of total bill.
  7. Maintenance -- Nothing to fix a leak, etc.
  8. Special requests such as extra pillows or towels -- $2.00.

Restaurants:

  1. Food server -- Poor service 10 percent, average service 15 percent, and excellent service 20 percent.
  2. Buffet -- If the server refills your glass and asks if you need anything, 10 percent.
  3. To-go orders -- Use your discretion, up to 10 percent.
  4. Bartender -- $1.00 per drink.
  5. Maître d’ -- $10.00 for a special request such as a table by the window.
  6. Sommelier -- 10 to 20 percent of the wine bill before tax, depending on how much assistance was involved.
  7. Bus boys -- Nothing, they will be included in the nights tipping pool.
  8. Coat check -- $1.00 per coat.
  9. Valet -- $3.00 to $5.00, sometimes more if you are requesting special service like having your car at the curb at a certain time, or keeping it up front until you return. You would tip when you leave the car off, and then again when you pick your car up, another $3.00 to $5.00. If there is a valet fee, you still tip at least $3.00.
  10. Strolling musician -- $3.00 for special request.

****When using a coupon, tip 15 to 20 percent of the meal on what the meal would have cost if you would have paid full price, not the discounted price of two for one.

Beauty and Massage:

  1. Hairstylist -- 15 to 20 percent of total bill.
  2. Manicurist --15 percent of total bill.
  3. Shampoo attendant -- $3.00 to $5.00, more for extra time and services such as a neck massage or if they work on you on a regular basis and you have developed a relationship. Some attendants do more than the stylist -- they color, condition, and dry your hair, so you would pay them more.
  4. Massage therapist -- 15 to 20 percent of total bill.
  5. Car wash attendant -- $5.00 and upwards, depending on the service you requested. He or she is usually splitting it with other attendants.

Miscellaneous:

  1. Coffee shop counter attendant -- "If the tip jar is there, you are not obligated to tip; however, if they remember your name and have your drink order written up and started before you walk up to the counter, a tip would be a nice gesture," says Gottsman. Throw in your extra change or be extra generous and leave a dollar.
  2. Barista -- "If you feel like you want to offer something extra, by all means tip, but check the tipping policy of the coffee shop to make sure they can accept," Gottsman says.
  3. Babysitter -- If they are your weekend babysitter, you can pay them their hourly rate. If they do something you feel is over the call of duty, you can always give them more, depending on what you deem fair -- there is no standard.
  4. Pizza delivery and other food delivery guys -- $3.00 to $4.00, more if they are driving in the snow or have multiple orders of pizza or food. "This is not part of the delivery charge which they do not get," Gottman says. "They work for tips and have to maintain their car to work as a delivery person."
  5. When you pick up a "to-go" meal and there is a tip jar -- Not mandatory and up to the customer's discretion.
  6. Car wash attendant -- 15 to 20 percent of service.

Spa/Hotel Pros and Attendants:

  1. Instructors and "pros" -- In general, instructors are "pros" and aren't tipped. While most would be insulted to take a tip, there are always those few that would enjoy getting handed a $50.00 bill after a surf lesson! Depends on the sport and the personality of the instructor, but generally speaking, most golf and tennis instructors I have spoken with would be insulted.
  2. Caddies -- The general rule of thumb is 50 percent of the caddie fee. For exceptional service, you can add more to the gratuity.
  3. Resort fees -- Gratuities are often included for resort service fees (i.e., 19.75%) for gratuities for the service staff, shuttle drivers, restaurant staff/parking attendants, bellman, at the resort, but extra discretionary tipping may be added for above and beyond service.
  4. Babysitter -- You tip the price of the service, plus a tip because they are probably splitting the cost of the service with the company they work for. Check the hotel policy first.
  5. Pool attendant -- For an extra towel or special service, by all means, tip at your discretion. If they bring you multiple towels, sunscreen, and a drink, $5.00. For only a towel, $1.00. Again, check with the hotel before you tip in the event they aren't allowed to accept gratuity, but most are.

When in doubt, ask! Even an etiquette expert encourages that, says Gaché.

"If you have absolutely no clue what to tip, consult the salon or spa receptionist and they should be able to steer you in the right direction," Gaché says. "The bottom line is tipping is private, but the more generous the tip, the more the salon or spa will be inclined to squeeze you in on a busy day or offer you a free product just for the heck of it."

Do you find tipping stressful? Will this help you?

by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:48 PM
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MJP76
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:30 PM

I have never found tipping stressful, if I have an issue with tipping someone for something, I'll just do it myself (for example, walking my happy butt to the office to get an extra pillow). We are usually generous tippers though, but for gods sake I can carry my own luggage to my room...lol

I think it's all dependant on your location too. Here in Ohio the typical tip for pizza delivery is  2/3 dollars, but more often 2.00. 

I just had a discussion in a group on Facebook about tipping apparently in England, no one, not even servers in restaurants get pd under minimum wage, so people in England don't generally tip at all unless the service was outstanding.

ZakkarysMom
by Silver Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:39 PM
What about cab drivers?
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atlmom2
by Ruby Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:46 PM
I tip and don't find it stressful.
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Bmat
by Barb on Feb. 4, 2013 at 6:05 PM

I'll print this out for reference. I am surprised that you are supposed to tip the valet drivers both when they take the car and when they return it-  does anyone here do this?

Christine0813
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 6:23 PM

 Bartender @ $1.00 per drink? Lol. Ya, right. My beer is $1.50.

DarlaHood
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 10:43 PM

We had a friend come here from the U.K., and he took us out to dinner.  He left a $5 tip on a $120 bill.  I had to distract him so my dh could go back and leave a $20.  It would have been so embarrassing because the server was very attentive.  Later we told our friend that he should know what our customs are.  It strikes me as strange that he would come here and not check the local customs.  When we travel abroad, we make it a point to check such things before we go. 

Quoting MJP76:

I have never found tipping stressful, if I have an issue with tipping someone for something, I'll just do it myself (for example, walking my happy butt to the office to get an extra pillow). We are usually generous tippers though, but for gods sake I can carry my own luggage to my room...lol

I think it's all dependant on your location too. Here in Ohio the typical tip for pizza delivery is  2/3 dollars, but more often 2.00. 

I just had a discussion in a group on Facebook about tipping apparently in England, no one, not even servers in restaurants get pd under minimum wage, so people in England don't generally tip at all unless the service was outstanding.


MJP76
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 10:49 PM


I agree... Old people are cheap too... We've always left bigger tips behind my grandparents back...

Quoting DarlaHood:

We had a friend come here from the U.K., and he took us out to dinner.  He left a $5 tip on a $120 bill.  I had to distract him so my dh could go back and leave a $20.  It would have been so embarrassing because the server was very attentive.  Later we told our friend that he should know what our customs are.  It strikes me as strange that he would come here and not check the local customs.  When we travel abroad, we make it a point to check such things before we go. 

Quoting MJP76:

I have never found tipping stressful, if I have an issue with tipping someone for something, I'll just do it myself (for example, walking my happy butt to the office to get an extra pillow). We are usually generous tippers though, but for gods sake I can carry my own luggage to my room...lol

I think it's all dependant on your location too. Here in Ohio the typical tip for pizza delivery is  2/3 dollars, but more often 2.00. 

I just had a discussion in a group on Facebook about tipping apparently in England, no one, not even servers in restaurants get pd under minimum wage, so people in England don't generally tip at all unless the service was outstanding.




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