Not Sure What To Do

We vaccinated our first child (I think we missed the last round) and we stopped the vaccinations on our second (like three from the end).  We didn't vaccinate either of our last two.  The doctors are starting earlier and earlier and accelerating the schedules.  You found a good dr when he told you to wait, especially if there's concern about whether some syndrome is caused by heredity or vaccinations.  He may have been doing a legal CMB, but it's also probably what's best for your LO.

(((hugs)))  This is hard when you're married to the father of your children.  My mom was a single mom and then my dad, so I grew up with single parents.  Being a mom now, I remember and have a better understanding of how hard it was for them.  (((hugs)))

Thank you for your kind words. 

I'm just honestly trying to make the best decision for my daughter and our family. 
I never know what to believe, because there is so much stuff out there battling against each other regarding almost any and every topic.

My daughter also is very smart and healthy.

She's at way more than 50 words, has only ever had two colds in her 21 months of life and is now starting to do so much more via communication.

I'm so proud of her.

Plus, I also have read some of the ingredients in the vaccinations and it kind of made me question whether they were good or not.
I was vaccinated as a child, but my mom even said that if she knew half of what we do now, she probably wouldn't have.

Thanks again! :) 

Find a child care place that allows children who are not vaxed until you decide what you want to do .  I personally think it is more heretidary than caused by shots.   DD had hers delayed and she is healthy 

Im not sure what the right answer is either, but first and foremost, I would look into daycare centers that allow non vax children. Then once that immediate concern is taken care of, I would continue to do the research. Only you can decide what is best for your child and I think you are very smart for doing research and making your decisions based on that.

Good luck!!

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My first got all his vacs, my second got some but started having seizures so we stopped, my third has none....and if I ever have anymore they would not have any either. I understand your caution. Get educated and whatever you decide to do, stand your ground!

 Vaccinations fill me with a lot of confusion, I understand their purpose but they scare me! I wish I had advice but I do not. Just educate yourself and follow your heart. ((hugs))

I understand what you are going thru, there are a lot of decisions to make when you have a child & most of them are not easy. You can ask a hundred doctors & get a different answer from each bc you are getting their personal opinion as well. You should probably ask them to put their personal opinion aside for a moment & just give you the facts & ask them to argue both sides for you (pros & cons). Then, after that, you can ask for their personal opinion if you wish. I chose to vaccinate my child bc I would rather be safe than sorry as far as the illnesses go. You can space them apart a little or delay them, I'm sure, but I wouldn't wait too long. I think they are put on a certain schedule for a reason, but I'm sure most drs wouldn't argue with breaking them up if you are uncomfortable with the # of shots per visit or if they were sick or something, but keep in mind, that just means your kid has to endure more days of shots when it would have been over & they would never remember it anyway :) There is a reason we have vaccines & they are the reason we don't have as many widespread (potentially deadly) illnesses here. Not trying to freak you out, but think about all the 3rd world countries that have thousands or more people dying over things that could have been prevented. Now, think about what would happen if people just stopped getting vaccinated here... it may take a while, but there have been studies done & eventually we wouldn't be that different from them. It's a scary thought. There is proof that not getting vaccines can lead to illness & even death in some cases, but there is no solid proof that vaccines lead to or cause Autism (or any part of the spectrum). I mean, people are dying from the flu bc they were too stubborn to get a shot! Here's a story... A parent decided not to get his/her child vaccinated & that child contracted chicken pox. He was abut 4 or 5. He was send to preschool where there were other kids of different ages in the same class. One little girl was only 6 or 7 Months old (not old enough for the vaccine) & caught chicken pox from this boy. Her mother did not know the boy was ill or that her baby had gotten it too so she sent her baby to another preschool the next day (Mother's day out) where they had classes by age, so this little girl was in a room with other infants (all of whom were too young to be vaccinated). The teachers saw a bump on the baby & called the mother who picked her up right away & took her to the dr. About a week later one of the other babies in that class started getting bumps all over her while she was at a family function. Turns out she had chicken pox too & a bad case of them too. Thing is, the drs didn't belive that it was chicken pox at first bc they had not seen anyone with it in over 5 years & surely no one this young. If they are too young, it can cause serious problems or even be life threatening!... Luckily, all recovered (some took longer than others), & still got their vaccines once they were old enough. This is just an example. A true story too, but just showing how fast something can spread & that's not even everyone that came into contact that I don't know about. Of course those that had gotten the vaccine weren't affected.      P.S. the 3rd baby was my daughter. It was a scary moment for me, but when she was old enough (1 year) she still got her chicken pox vac bc I did not want to be the parent responsible for someone else's child being sick with something I could have prevented. Also, even tho she had ch. pox already, bc she was under 1 year, she still needed vaccinated bc around 1 year, your baby's immunity changes (I can't remember all the details, you can ask your pediatrician). On the other hand, my youngest sister missed a lot of vaccines, but not bc her mother didn't want her to have them, bc she forgot to get them. She ended up never having chicken pox vaccine until she was trying to get into college. She was supposed to do it before elementary school, but forgot then too (genius I tell ya, lol). At some point, they said she would not be allowed to go to school without certain vacs so she got them & still has not had any problems. There is no guarantee either way really. Basically, it is your decision, I'm just offering my opinion. You can take it as you wish, but I believe whole-heartedly that there is less risk & it is a safer place for your child & everyone else if all children (& adults) are vaccinated. Now, there are some vaccines that are considered more mandatory than others. Up until now, the flu shot was not always mandatory, it was always up to you personally, (it is only considered mandatory in the elderly, very young & pregnant women) but with the season we had this year, who would want to risk it? That's my 2 cents :) Sorry it is so long! Good Luck with your decision!

I didn't even know there were daycares for non vax kids. Wow, you learn something new every day, lol!

Thank you so much for your reply and story. 

I am sorry this happened to you and those other children, and I do see where you are coming from.
I am neutral. I do agree with them, but at the same time I am scared. I have heard just as scary stories from children who have been vaccinated. Hearing them getting a rash that covers their entire body, caused permanent scarring, etc., and I guess because my daughter already has a physical feature that isn't the most appealing (hemangioma) I am scared of her being made fun of in school if something like that were to happen...

I guess I just want the science behind it. What's in them, why are the doses legal, what are the statistics for children who are vaccinated vs. those who aren't.

I don't want the Medical Textbook Answer as to why they are "good or bad" for your child. I want cold hard facts.

I love my daughter so much and I don't want anything bad to happen to her, including getting ill from either not being vaccinated, or the opposite!  

Quoting blucandie:

I understand what you are going thru, there are a lot of decisions to make when you have a child & most of them are not easy. You can ask a hundred doctors & get a different answer from each bc you are getting their personal opinion as well. You should probably ask them to put their personal opinion aside for a moment & just give you the facts & ask them to argue both sides for you (pros & cons). Then, after that, you can ask for their personal opinion if you wish. I chose to vaccinate my child bc I would rather be safe than sorry as far as the illnesses go. You can space them apart a little or delay them, I'm sure, but I wouldn't wait too long. I think they are put on a certain schedule for a reason, but I'm sure most drs wouldn't argue with breaking them up if you are uncomfortable with the # of shots per visit or if they were sick or something, but keep in mind, that just means your kid has to endure more days of shots when it would have been over & they would never remember it anyway :) There is a reason we have vaccines & they are the reason we don't have as many widespread (potentially deadly) illnesses here. Not trying to freak you out, but think about all the 3rd world countries that have thousands or more people dying over things that could have been prevented. Now, think about what would happen if people just stopped getting vaccinated here... it may take a while, but there have been studies done & eventually we wouldn't be that different from them. It's a scary thought. There is proof that not getting vaccines can lead to illness & even death in some cases, but there is no solid proof that vaccines lead to or cause Autism (or any part of the spectrum). I mean, people are dying from the flu bc they were too stubborn to get a shot! Here's a story... A parent decided not to get his/her child vaccinated & that child contracted chicken pox. He was abut 4 or 5. He was send to preschool where there were other kids of different ages in the same class. One little girl was only 6 or 7 Months old (not old enough for the vaccine) & caught chicken pox from this boy. Her mother did not know the boy was ill or that her baby had gotten it too so she sent her baby to another preschool the next day (Mother's day out) where they had classes by age, so this little girl was in a room with other infants (all of whom were too young to be vaccinated). The teachers saw a bump on the baby & called the mother who picked her up right away & took her to the dr. About a week later one of the other babies in that class started getting bumps all over her while she was at a family function. Turns out she had chicken pox too & a bad case of them too. Thing is, the drs didn't belive that it was chicken pox at first bc they had not seen anyone with it in over 5 years & surely no one this young. If they are too young, it can cause serious problems or even be life threatening!... Luckily, all recovered (some took longer than others), & still got their vaccines once they were old enough. This is just an example. A true story too, but just showing how fast something can spread & that's not even everyone that came into contact that I don't know about. Of course those that had gotten the vaccine weren't affected.      P.S. the 3rd baby was my daughter. It was a scary moment for me, but when she was old enough (1 year) she still got her chicken pox vac bc I did not want to be the parent responsible for someone else's child being sick with something I could have prevented. Also, even tho she had ch. pox already, bc she was under 1 year, she still needed vaccinated bc around 1 year, your baby's immunity changes (I can't remember all the details, you can ask your pediatrician). On the other hand, my youngest sister missed a lot of vaccines, but not bc her mother didn't want her to have them, bc she forgot to get them. She ended up never having chicken pox vaccine until she was trying to get into college. She was supposed to do it before elementary school, but forgot then too (genius I tell ya, lol). At some point, they said she would not be allowed to go to school without certain vacs so she got them & still has not had any problems. There is no guarantee either way really. Basically, it is your decision, I'm just offering my opinion. You can take it as you wish, but I believe whole-heartedly that there is less risk & it is a safer place for your child & everyone else if all children (& adults) are vaccinated. Now, there are some vaccines that are considered more mandatory than others. Up until now, the flu shot was not always mandatory, it was always up to you personally, (it is only considered mandatory in the elderly, very young & pregnant women) but with the season we had this year, who would want to risk it? That's my 2 cents :) Sorry it is so long! Good Luck with your decision!

Hi CheriBlossom. :) 

I think you are to be commended for doing any research at all.  It is difficult being a parent but it is worth it too. :)  I had my first child vaccinated with just the first three right before she turned 3. She get Leukemia. The doctor aske what vaccines she got and said that that is why she had cancer. She nearly died. She had been weeks away from death when we found out. She had a bone marrow transplant and that saved her life. Well, we have had 6 more children, none of whom have ever been vaccinated at all and not a one of them has been sick.  I didn't know then about what goes into any of the vaccines. But I can assure you I do now. I will never vaccinate our children. But that is my choice. You, you must keep doing what you are doing and keep on educating yourself. Go with your gut instinct.  What you have been doing, obviously, is doing something right.  Good Luck sweety.  :)