When I gave birth to my daughter, I was 19.
I educated myself, by going to parenting classes before and after she was born. They talked about everything from feeding, to car seat safety, bathing, clothing, illness...but they never really went over Vaccinations.
There is a lot of talk as to what is better for your child, and I'm the kind of parent that is in between with it all.
What is right and what is wrong?
When my daughter was 6 months old, I took her in for her 6 month booster (I guess that's what it was) and my doctor told me that I should wait until my daughter was about 3 years old to get the rest of them, due to the fact that some of the vaccinations (not sure which ones), can cause a swelling of the braing, and in some cases resulting in Autism.
My daughter biological father (who I'm not longer in contact with), has Asperger Syndrome and that was another reason my doctor told me to hold off until her brain was more developed. He didn't want it to come down to her having it later in life and us finding out it was due to the vaccines.
BUT then I was told by another doctor that Autism isn't hereditary unless both parents have it (and girls apparently have a lesser chance of getting it from their parents...or something like that). So, being young and vulnerable...I believed what the doctor said.
I'm not saying he was wrong...but with all of the talk about vaccinations on Facebook and hearing what other parents had to say (" I wouldn't dare let my child not be vaccinated" or "I wouldn't ever") is confusing me to the point that I am overwhelming myself.
I know that she is my child and it's all up to me, but I don't want to make the wrong decision. I'm not against them, NOR am I for them. I'm neutral.
I do however, believe that if your child has a proper lifestyle - filled with vitamins, minerals, exercise and proper eating habits as well as proper health care otherwise, that it's enough to have them live a healthy life.
Then today, I got told by my financial assistance employment worker that I would be forced to get her vaccinated so they could put her in day care for me to work and I don't like that either. I want to be able to make the decisions for my daughter, no have someone else do it just to get me off the system.
(Financial Assistance is a completely different topic for me, so that's not really being included in this topic, I just mentioned the fact I'd be forced to get her vaccinated if I was forced to work)
I don't know what to do.
Some people look at me and think I'm an idiot for not having her vaccined since she was 6 months and some commend me for it...
What risk is worth taking?
The risk of an illness being caught due to a lack of vaccinations OR the risk of being vaccinated and ending up getting Autism (something of which isn't a complete solid answer within that field of knowledge).
I don't want either, of course...but I've never found the truth about everything and I'm so lost.
I'm still young (21) and I don't have a lot of family around me to help me out, so I've come to you.
Can you help?
(and please, don't bash me for my decisions or thoughts...I'm just trying to be the best parent I can be)