Please help! Motherless friend of my daughter
Her mom abandoned her, and she lives with her dad, who does the best he can (really does) but due to work, the commute and not having family/friends in the area, he's not around too much. She's at a sitters in the am, goes to preschool, picked up at 6 and it starts over the next day.
She's got a bit of behavior issues- but nothing I can't handle - kind of manipulative and clingy, but not physical or anything like that.
I offered to pick her up from school when dads late/watch her on weekends if he has to work - I don't mind at all - if I'm home, I'm free.
Here's my issue: she is, as I mentioned very very clingy and always trying to get my attention. When I give it to her, my daughter gets jealous and tries to compete for the attention (only child). They're both 5, so a lot of it is standard kids stuff but a little more intense.
My daughters friend recently has been asking me to be her mom bc "my mommy left me and I don't have one!" she's also asked if she can move in bc she doesn't have "lots of toys and stairs" (meaning her place is smaller than ours - I'm sure she has just as many toys though lol$
How do I address this both with her and with my daughter? The friend made me a valentines day card that said "to mom" and my daughter flipped and it started a valentines day card war.
I've told the little girl that I can't be her mommy bc she only gets one mommy, but that doesn't mean I can't love her and care about her. And whenever she starts with the "my mommy left me" I always tell her I'm so sorry and that it must be sad for her, and if she wants to talk im here.
Any advice on how to handle it? She's such a good kid and even her father says how grateful he is that she spends time at our house where things are a bit more structured. I really want to help nurture this kid bc she needs it but I don't want to cross the line either.