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playdate i was rejected ?? arent parents supposed to stay?

Posted by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 5:42 PM
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I am a working class full time employed twenty something mom living in a rich upper class sahm neighborhood. I live beyond my means in a cramped apt. I don't have designer duds or a bentley to chauffeur dd in.  She is the sweetest child ever. she was invited to a few play dates and I feel as though the moms find me inferior. Today I took her to her friends mansion in the gated community a few miles from our apt. Upon arrival I escorted Ginny in, expecting to stay for the duration of the play date. After a brief conversation about girl scouts her teacher etc her friends mom frankly informed me I was to pick her up at 6 pm. I then left ..confused because I believed that in playdates the parent was to stay the entire time and chit chat with the other parent. I suppose she did not want me for company ? am I overreacting ? she is 7 yo btw.

by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 5:42 PM
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GINSMUM123
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 5:42 PM

BUMP!

edelweiss23
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 5:43 PM
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I wouldn't have left without my kid.
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hollydaze1974
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 5:44 PM
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Seven yr olds do not required chaperones. I don't feel this was inappropriate .
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alexsmomaubrys2
by Silver Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 5:44 PM
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I think you are overreacting. At 7 years old, I wouldn't expect the mother to stay and unless they were close friends I would find it tedious.

SamMom912
by Silver Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 5:44 PM
Playdates in my upper middle class neighbirhood are drop iff sfter 5 yrs of age provided the parents do the meet n greet and everyone us comfy.
I wouldnt take it personal at all!
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momof2little1s
by Bronze Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 5:45 PM
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Once they get past 4 or 5 dropping kids off for their play dates is pretty standard.
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Mommy2justone
by Mommy2justtwo on Feb. 9, 2013 at 5:45 PM

If you didn't know the mom, I wouldn't have left her there. If you knew the mom, maybe she was expecting the children to have a playdate, and not you and her?

aurora.dove
by Bronze Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 5:46 PM

I'm not sure, I haven't had to deal with "play dates" really. My kid plays with my friends kids and that is it, so when we get together they play and the parents do hang out. However if when he gets older and goes to visit a friend from school, I wouldn't expect to be invited to stay if I was not already friends with the child's parents. I had play time with plenty of friends growing up without my parents being there.

SewingMamaLele
by Bronze Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 5:58 PM
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we do drop off play dates after 5ish.   i wouldn't be offended, it's about the kids playing.  if you aren't comfortable say no next time.

CreziaMommyTo2
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 5:58 PM
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i would NOT expect to stay or have a mom stay after the age of 5 or 6, unless i was friends with the mom.

totally normal

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