i don't have godparents and neither do i have godparents for my daughter. i've always thought godparents were in place so if something happened to you and/or your spouse they were there to take care of your child.
my best friend is pregnant and is expecting her soon. she asked me to be a godparent to her. problem is she has always bragged about her godparents acting as a second pair of parents to her. showering her with lots of affection, gifts, taking her places, etc. and she would love to have that for her daughter.
i don't mind being a godparent and being their for her and her daughter but basically taking on another child (gifts, taking her with us, etc.) is a little much. not only can i not afford another child but don't won't one.
how do i tell her no i wouldn't be a good choice without hurting her feelings? it wasn't an issue when my daughter was born. it's something my family and my in-laws don't have (godparents) so it was never brought up.