Hello everyone. My name is Andrea and I am a mother of 3. I joined this group because I thought I could get advise for a question I have and I was hoping someone have been in the same shoes.
A couple of months ago, my husband and I decided to move into a big house with my mother-in-law and brother-in-law. We decided to do this since money was tight and we are saving alot. Anyways. My brother in law has some problems no offence. He is autistic, has add and adhd and has a really bad temper sometimes. We have been trying to help him and my mother in law has to basically take him to doctors appointments just to get the help he needs. He also has a girlfriend who comes around alot. We don't hate her or anything, but she has been fighting with my brother in law alot when she is over here and we have to remind them both especially at night not to fight because of the kids. I don't want her to get out of his life because they have been together for 5 years and she is also like family. But she never sees that. She has a negative attitude and all we do is try to be nice to her. She doesn't live with us either but she act like she does too. She will stay at our home for several weeks and then go home for a week and come back and it is the same thing over. There will be a fight going on down in my brother in law. I mean since he has a bad temper, he bangs stuff. But tonight, I went off on the both of them and I am sorry but I told her to leave and get out, so we can all spend time as a family and not have this fighting going on. Once we she got home, she has been calling non stop and we turned off the phones. But the question is, What should we do about this? We have already talked to my mother in law and she thinks they both need a break and we think so too. Has anyone ever had to deal with this kind of family stuff?