My fiancee has a 18 y/o son who is determined to live at home forever. He dropped out of school and used every excuse in the book as to why he couldn't go back. He also has no desire to get a job (neither does his girlfriend who "lives" with us as well). We pay all the bills and with all the extras she has brought in we had a $400 electric bill. With a baby on the way we can't afford both of them on top of his daughter and my boys.
We have talked about setting him up and paying for a few months of bills and telling him he has so long to figure it out. My fiancee has the hardest time telling his son to grow up. He is always talking to me about how he wants him to move out or how much easier it would be if he would just get a job.
Everything future wise that we talk about revolves around his son i.e where we want to buy a house, how big the house will be and his son having his own space. We can't move out of this town because he won't have friends even though it would be better for all of us.
His daughter is only 14, you give her money and she buys what she needs not what she wants. You give his son money and he buys things that he really shouldn't be getting. He likes to go to parties a lot and sometimes brings them back to the house. 3 a.m is not the time I want to wake up because a bunch of people are downstairs and the music is thumping.
He complains about his dad being a father now and hates it, but really it is my thoughts and his voice.
I don't know how to handle this kid anymore. How do you get someone who doesn't want to do anything with his life to move out??!!??
Any advice would be amazing because I am close to just moving out myself. I don't want to lose my fiancee, but I can't handle his son anymore and shortly after I have the baby my fiancee leaves for work for a few months and I am on my own.