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My sister in law has 2 kids. a 4 and 6 year old. She is getting released from jail today for dui warrant for not showing up to court. I keep hearing from people that shes using drugs and she drinks all the time. She goes missing sometimes for days at a time with no word from her. Her kids are suffering cause she only wants to be around when its convenient for her. All of them are living with my mother in law and her kids are being taking care of by their grandma(my mother in law). My MIL is constantly complaining about her and she gets pissed when we are going to the grocery store and she needs to go with but cant because my SIL isnt home to watch her kids. I have 2 kids and i wont allow the kids to be in my car without carseats. The grandma wants to take care of these kids but its not her responsibility its the mothers. The kids are just going to suffer because there mom is never around. Im sick of my SIL not taking care of her kids and then having to hear about it from my MIL but my MIL keeps saying "im going to continue to help her". I dont feel like you can help someone that doesnt want to be helped and your not helping someone by taking care of there kids so they can go get drunk or do drugs. She wants me to tell her what she wants to hear and im not doing that. Then today i get a message from my MIL that says this "I am not going to talk about **** or the boys anymore. All I get is abuse from people. So I will talk about other things and I am not mad, but that subject everytime I talk to anybody about just makes me cry and I am done arguing about this with everyone. Nobody cares about **** or what I am going through". I was like really no one cares. I take her everyone she needs to go, let her borrow money, offer to help her all the time and she says all she gets is abuse. Nobody is abusing her there simply telling her the truth and trying to help her so she isnt walked all over. I feel like she is being selfish. She wants to take care of these 2 boys and i think she feels lonely without them so she does it to make herself feel better. Also after the kids dad found out there mom was in jail he took the kids and said he wont give them back until shes out and he has the right to take them but she keeps trying to say that they should be with her like shes more important then there dad and that hes being selfish by taking them. Do you think this is selfish? I dont even know what to do anymore. Should i just tell her i dont want to talk about the subject anymore? or what can i say or do to get it through her head that there being selfish?