Dirty Diaper Drop Off in Childcare Question.... Is this Normal?
About me- I have been providing in home childcare for 6 years. Most of the children I have cared for in the past have started with me at 6 weeks and stay with me until 3-4 years old. I have only had to stop caring for one child due to issues with the parents. I have 2 children of my own (7 and 3.5).
So my question is this- have you ever had a child you were caring for dropped off with a sopping wet, bearly hanging on night time wet diaper? If you are a parent- you know what a night time diaper looks and smells like in the morning. The child is dropped off after 8:00 a.m. and has had breakfast. I tell you this so you know the child wasn't just woken up and brought to me. You would feel this diaper when you picked up the child and put the child in the car seat as well. Parents are always well put together hair/makeup/nice clothes. Not something thrown on to get to work.
When I asked the mom after 2 days of the same issue( in the nicest way possible), if she would make sure that the child was in a fresh diaper when he was dropped off, she got offended. Huffy is a good word. Told me that she was sure he had been changed. Again- most people know what a night time diaper is like. Both days I had to wash his clothes because they were wet with pee. Second day (same clothes on) smelled horrible like pee. I am not good with people that lie, there is no reason to. I can see it being embarrassing, yes.
So then the child is dropped off the next day- clean diaper- and nothing is said. Pickup time comes and the father shows up. Wants to talk. Tells me that he and his wife will not be told how to parent his child. I asked to have a dry diaper on the child. This is my childcare business. Your child should come to me ready for the day. Common sense tells you to change your child.... He is really trying to be intimidating to me and my husband. Thank God my husband was home. He also made a comment about me saying something about his child's face. When the child was dropped of- I was in a good mood and the child had breakfast on his face, I said "oh look at your face! breakfast must have been good!" Do you think this is telling you how to be a parent either?
On the other foot- they have lied to me about being married- I could really care less, other than the fact that I found out via them online that they are engaged. They both wear rings. But when you sit on my couch and tell me that you are a Christian man and trying to raise your child in faith, but will lie to me about being married, that tells me you will lie about a wet diaper. If you can lie with a straight face about being married- Holy in the Bible married, you will lie about anything. Why lie? If you're not married it's not a deal killer in my book. Makes me wonder if everyone at Church have been told they are married as well.
I am going to terminate the childcare service with them today. Just wondering thoughts on the whole situation with the dirty night time diaper and lying. Also- it should be known that the child has been thru 4 childcare providers in less than 18 months. I'm guessing someone else didn't want to deal with them either because the child is great- one of the best I have ever kept.
Thanks for your reponses!