Ok I'm just jumping right into this, because I can't even explain how I feel.
I have a "friend" more of a person I talk to if I see her in the store. I don't really associate with her much because I know what she is doing is wrong, but I don't know who to report to. However, I don't want to get involved either. I've asked at our local DHHS but they say its our state that has to deal with it. I have to get online and do this and then this and process of monkey business really.
This friend, we'll call her Sadie. She has had the same b/f since he was a junior in high school, he is now 28. She is 23. She has lived with him since then. They bought a house together, how I don't know she has never worked. She worked 6 hours with me at a place, and then got fired because she stood up to the boss, and said she shouldn't have to do something he told her was part of their policy. It was something simple really, I think it was like working every other holiday, well big whoop lots of places make you do that. Anyway, she had her 1st child with medicaid benefits in 2008 (her and baby). She had her second child with medicaid benefits (she and the baby) in 2011. About a month ago she asked me who I went to for my pregnancy and miscarriage, and if he was any good. I said yeah he was really good, very nice bed side manner, and explained everything very well. She said ok I'll try him, I need a new gyno I don't like mine anymore. Come to find out she wanted not only a new gyno but an OBGYN, because her old gyno said he wasn't going to accept her medicaid anymore. She announced this to me in Walmart about a week after I referred her to him. She is now expecting her 3rd child with medicaid benefits (she and the baby again). Which she plastered all over Facebook lastnight. It kind of hurt me, because she knows my husband and I had our miscarriage shortly before Christmas. I was nearly 4 months along. She is not married, and has refused a ring twice from her b/f. Heres the greatest part of all! She claims her b/f has child support taken out of his check and sent to his mother's house in a different town, where he claims to live (but actually lives with her and the children.) How this works I don't know, I've never done the whole child support thing before. I do know they went to court so she could get it. We have been trying, and my job I was at was the cause for my miscarriage. So, I took a new job at a place that doesn't offer insurance benefits. However, in our state at $9.50 an hour means you make too much to get medicaid benefits. I've checked into self pay programs, and low income insurance NOTHING! I am a college student, and still nothing. My husband works full time and gets $12 an hour. Her b/f makes $24 an hour at an office position. Because she stays single she gets to keep popping kids out. We desperately just want our 2nd and cannot afford the $400+ a month for health coverage for maternity. We've checked numerous companies. We're ok to buy diapers and food and formula we've done this before. But why $400 a month plus a deductible and etc... I don't know what to say to this girl, or if I should turn her into the state or what. The first time I questioned the whole scenario that I make too much and am married, but someone who doesn't work and won't get married gets everything given to her, I was told by a social worker I could quit my job, then I would get a lot of benefits. I got upset and said I have more dignity than that. I don't know if it that family or what and it may not pertain too much to this, but "Sadies" sister is following in her footsteps. She is 19 and has 2 kids already. The oldest is 3, she is pregnant again also, 3 different fathers with that one. It sounds like some unbelievable dishonest soap opera really. I just wish Nebraska had some way to help me, I want to have another child before my biological clock runs out