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Disappointed and taking child out of daycare

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Hey mommas!! I posted something last night about my toddler who was excluded from his daycare party. I saw some pictures show up on my newsfeed that one of the parents and our daycare was tagged in saying Daycare social 2013!! He goes to an inhome daycare and she didnt invite us or mention it to us. She has invited us every other time and we have been with her for almost 4 years cause I have an older son. So even us going only one day a week is no reason to not invite us. She even went out of her way to block us from her status that reminded the daycare families about the party. I am pulling him out cause I think it is very unprofessional how she excluded our son and our family but invited the other families. If your a daycare owner and throw a daycare party you invite all or dont have it period. Here is my letter to her.

I am writing you this because I saw that you had a daycare social 2013 and for whatever reason you did not invite us or even mention anything to us about this. I found out through seeing on my facebook the tagged pictures of it. I am not sure why you would not invite Carter and our family to this party but yet you invited every other family and went out of your way to block us from your postings about it. This was very hurtful to our family. I don’t why you excluded us but we have been with you for almost 4 years and was welcome to every other daycare gathering. We find this unprofessional and are very disappointed. Carter will no longer be coming to your daycare. If you go out of your way to exclude us, we do not feel very welcomed.


Would you guys do the same? Or am I over reacting?

by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 9:32 AM
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by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 5:15 PM

I"m the type to face it head on and ask her to her face as to why.  Writing a letter can be taken in a wrong manner because no body language nor tone inflection.  You can read her face and body language and determine why.  If she is trying to make her one day person leave, then you know instead of guessing at her intentions.  Good luck in this.

by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 6:45 PM

I think you're jumping the gun a little too quickly here.  There could be any number of reasons you weren't included.  I get that you were included it the past, but things change.  I wouldn't pull my child without talking to her first, in fact I doubt I would pull my child at all over something like that.  I ran a dayhome for years and it is so crucial to keep the lines of communication open between parents and their provider.  I would definitely bring it up, if it is bothering you.  But if she provides quality, loving care for your child, that is so much more important than some dumb party, not too mention she has clearly been a part of your child's life for a long time.

by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 8:27 PM

I would make a meeting time to sit down and talk to her about this and explain how you feel. Then ask her why your family wasn't invited. Get to the bottom of it before making a rash decision.

by Bronze Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 8:30 PM
Why write a letter? Why not call her? Or speak with her face to face. I would do those before I change things around unless there are other reasons to pull the child out
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by Silver Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 8:38 PM
I would not send the letter... It may be unprofessional to not invite you and your son... But your letter sounds like a child having a tantrum. I would just move on... Don't send him and find someone new... She will get the hint.
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by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 9:08 PM

Don't you think you should talk to her first ? Is she a good daycare provider in every other way ? I for one would be thrilled not to have to go to 1 more party. You should at least find out her reasons before jumping to conclusions and possible losing a good sitter over something that could turn out to be nothing  but a misunderstanding.

by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 9:47 PM
It sounds like she did not want your kid there and a new care placement would be a good idea. I would not get into a whole explanation. A simple two weeks notice will suffice and keep the next two weeks from getting very awkward.
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by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 9:52 PM
I'd do the same. If she had a good reason she should have been upfront saying hey I'm having a daycare social but this is why I am not inviting you don't feel bad or whatever.

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by Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 9:54 PM
This exactly

Quoting January1964:

I wouldn't do anything until I heard the reason for this. Your letter sounds good, nice and calm. I would have spoken to her in person. That way, I'd have a better chance to sense if she were lying. I don't prefer in-home daycares, so this is hard for me to answer.

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by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 12:04 AM

Ok so I am paying for my son to go to her DAYCARE. and she is throwing a DAYCARE social for all the families in the daycare and my son who is part of the daycare doesnt get invited? its not like it was just some get together randomly it was specifically called DAYCARE SOCIAL 2013. that is like if your child had a school party or if his/her teacher had a classroom party for all the students in the class and didnt invite your child and they were the only one not invited.

Quoting LyTe684:

She's providing a service, right? Does she provide that service well? Who she chooses to invite to her parties are her own personal business.

You are overreacting.


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