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Why are you kissing my kid?

I'm just curious if any other moms have daycare providers that kiss their kids? Every morning when I drop off my daycare provider insists on getting a kiss from my kid. I think it is disgusting, she is not family, nor friend, just a daycare provider. This morning I asked her not to do that and she started laughing. I told her it wasn't funny although I appreciate that she loves my kid, she is spreading germs to him and all the other kids and she got visibly upset with me. Does your daycare provider kiss your children? Do you/Would you mind?



Edit- please keep in mind, I am not banning all kissing. We are talking about lip to lip kissing only. I do want my child to be hugged snuggled and have cheek kisses and boo-boo kisses. The only kissing I am referring to is with her asking my son for kisses, and kissing him on the mouth. And it isnt all about germs but this is a large center and he is not the only child she kisses. I recognize that there are germs everywhere but do we not wash our hands, dishes, and tables as well as toys in a daycare to help to keep it down? Isnt the idea to attempt to keep our kids healthy? And cold sores are spread by kissing right? (Just some clarification points here, I do appreciate all your opinions and comments, thank you!)
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:21 PM
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PEEK05
by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 8:22 PM

I think that is disgusting.

hollydaze1974
by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 9:17 PM
Hmmmm, so perhaps your mommy instincts were right on a deeper level than you realize....

Quoting Coffee247Needed:

To clarify some of your questions, this is lip to lip kissing, I agree with many of you that hugs and snuggles and many other kisses are ok. And this is not my son attempting to kiss her, its her requesting to kiss him ex. "Gimme a kiss, where are my kisses".



Edit- my dcp has decided that I was rude for my request not to kiss him and we no longer have a daycare to go to. She practically threw his bag at me as we were getting his things to leave. I am sad that this is how it turned out as she was great in many other ways. But I have to hold strong for what I think is right for my son.
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bubbbaNbabygirl
by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 9:24 PM
Being a nanny for years I only ever hugged and kissed on the ones I truly loved and cared about! I would take it as a good sign!
spotsmom
by Bronze Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 12:21 AM

Of course she got upset...what is wrong with you? Care providers DO come to love the children they care for, and God help those children if they didn't. You should feel glad that the person you've entrusted your child with cares about them and shows affection. Do you think your child would benefit from a cold, emotionless, and affectionless environment all day while you are at work? In your absensce, your child needs to feel that the people that care for him/her during the day love him/her, children thrive on that affection. And you're worried about germs? Then don't send your kid to daycare. The place is teeming with them. A kiss from his daycare provider is the least germ infested thing he is going to come into contact with in the course of his day. I'm sure it really hurt her feelings to be told that she is doing nothing more than "passing germs" to the kid she cares about. 

AlliJadesmama
by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 12:27 AM
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My girlfriends aunt is a in home daycare provider and she kisses my dd on the cheek..but she is family so it doesn't bother me at all.
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Coffee247Needed
by Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 11:14 AM
Thank you for your comment. Of course I dont want her to be affectionless, but would cheek kissing and hugs and snuggles suffice? I only asked her not to kiss him on the mouth. My son has been sick for over a month, and in my family we only kiss family members. Is that so wrong?


Quoting spotsmom:

Of course she got upset...what is wrong with you? Care providers DO come to love the children they care for, and God help those children if they didn't. You should feel glad that the person you've entrusted your child with cares about them and shows affection. Do you think your child would benefit from a cold, emotionless, and affectionless environment all day while you are at work? In your absensce, your child needs to feel that the people that care for him/her during the day love him/her, children thrive on that affection. And you're worried about germs? Then don't send your kid to daycare. The place is teeming with them. A kiss from his daycare provider is the least germ infested thing he is going to come into contact with in the course of his day. I'm sure it really hurt her feelings to be told that she is doing nothing more than "passing germs" to the kid she cares about. 


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newmommy2012144
by Member on Feb. 22, 2013 at 9:12 PM
Could be a child molester. Take him out.
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Mommy4000
by Bronze Member on Feb. 22, 2013 at 9:19 PM

When I worked daycare I would kiss my daycare kids. I wouldn't insist on a kiss at all, but if they wanted a kiss I would kiss them, just as I would love on my own kids. Kissing on the lips wasn't a big thing at all, but I did have one little boy that loved kisses and he was just too stinking cute when he would pucker up for a kiss I just couldn't help it. I think there certainly is an age where it becomes less appropriate, but I had mostly 2 year olds and younger, and they wouldn't really understand being told no when asking for a kiss or a hug. Of course if it was something that the parent requested that I not do, whatever it was, I would abide by that.

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