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Circumcision

Posted by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 4:14 PM
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Update: DH and I have talked about it and we have decided that we will not have the baby circumcised if we end up having a boy. Here is the original story that I wanted to share, which prompted me to say no in the first place. It's very hard to read, I cried, but I don't want this happening to my son.

http://legosonthestairs.blogspot.com/2012/10/circumcision-question-that-should-never.html

Thanks for all the information shared and for the advice about cleaning and care. My friend also shared a few more links about care that I will post here for anyone interested :)

http://www.drmomma.org/2010/01/basic-care-of-intact-child.html

http://www.thewholenetwork.org/14/post/2011/09/proper-care-of-the-intact-penis-from-baby-to-teenager.html

http://community.babycenter.com/groups/a6723799/questioning_circumcision_raising_intact_boys

Original Post:I'm pregnant and in a couple of weeks I will know if I'm having a girl or a boy. I have a friend on facebook that posts stuff about circumcision all the time and some of the stories that she shares are pretty scary. She has also shared videos, but I can't bring myself to click on them.

After seeing all this, I said there was no way that I would have my son circumcised (if I am indeed having a boy).

However, some ladies here have said that members of their family that did not have circumcision had more problems than those that were circumcised.

I'll share some of the links that I saw, but I wanted to get opinions on circumcision. Yes or no? Why or why not?

Just something that will help me make my decision. Thanks ladies :)

http://www.mothering.com/community/t/112410/if-you-regret-circumcising-your-son-s-please-post-here

http://circumcisiondecisionmaker.com/

http://www.intactamerica.org/dangerousmistake

http://guggiedaly.blogspot.com/2011/08/if-only.html

http://wholesome-mama.blogspot.com/2011/12/circumcision-regret-brave-mamas-sharing.html

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by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 4:14 PM
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-PB
by Gold Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 4:27 PM

 All of the websites posted are non-credible sources with biased information.  Just thought I'd point that out.  Not everything you read on the Internet is true so if you want good information you should probably go to the library, talk to a doctor (maybe even two), or visit websites that end in .gov or .edu.  Good luck in your decision and congrats on your upcoming arrival.

Randi02
by Platinum Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 4:29 PM
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No.

Why? My babies are born perfect, I don't need to cut up their foreskin.

EvilAsh
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 4:31 PM
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I've personally never heard of issues from not being circumcised before. I used to be for circ until I watched the videos and actually read up on it. Now I will never circ my boy if I'm having one. I'll find out in 5-7 more weeks.

GELiz
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 4:33 PM

YOur preference. this is what I believe to be true. There is less cervical cancer in women married to circumcised men- do not know if that is a cause or not.

Adult men have had to have circumcision due to an infection that will not go away- the ones that I know of said they wish they had had a circumcision when they were little.

My first son's circumsicion was not done well. I have never discussed with him his issues.

My brother had one due to the end of his penis being too small.

So I guess it is just your choice.

taeray
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 4:34 PM
My personal opinion is that circumcision is, at best, a preventative and elective surgery. We don't remove the breasts from girls whose mothers and grandmothers had breast cancer because their risk is higher than most. Circumcision could possibly protect against some problems but the problems aren't guaranteed to happen so why put a baby through a painful procedure that can interfere with oxytocin releases that help mom and baby bond, make baby colicky and more fussy, and can cause permanent damage if it's botched.

If you just look at facts and not opinions, facts are that the AAP recommends it as a procedure that can protect against some possible problems but they do not recommend it as something that should be done to all infants. Also, statistically they do not circumcize infants across the board in Europe like they do here, and it's not like men are just dropping left and right over there.
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gizmo538
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 4:36 PM

 Okay, I'll add that to my research. Thank you :)

Quoting -PB:

 All of the websites posted are non-credible sources with biased information.  Just thought I'd point that out.  Not everything you read on the Internet is true so if you want good information you should probably go to the library, talk to a doctor (maybe even two), or visit websites that end in .gov or .edu.  Good luck in your decision and congrats on your upcoming arrival.

 

We are the music makers, and we are the dreamers of dreams.
gizmo538
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 4:38 PM

 I never heard of it either until today as a matter of fact. There's a post floating around somewhere in the group "Mom Confessions" about circumcision and a lot of the ladies there seem to be for circumcision and some mentioned problems that some members of their family had that were not circumcised. It made me doubt my decision a little.

Quoting EvilAsh:

I've personally never heard of issues from not being circumcised before. I used to be for circ until I watched the videos and actually read up on it. Now I will never circ my boy if I'm having one. I'll find out in 5-7 more weeks.

 

We are the music makers, and we are the dreamers of dreams.
ferne3
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 4:39 PM

I have found this is one of those issues that people are very passionate about one way or the other - like vaccinations.  And, like vaccinations, you will be able to find credible sources on both sides of the spectrum that will be able to give you very good reasons one way or the other.  Personally, I left it up to my husband - maybe a chicken way out, but I wasn't sure what I wanted and I figured when the time came and our DS wanted to know why we did one or the other, it would be a good father/son talk.  Interesting fact on one of those hospital videos they have in the maternity ward (our son is only 2 weeks old so I still remember it) in the US approximately 80-90% of boys are circumcised.  In Europe, only 10% are.  Either way, get good sources of information, make a decision and know whatever you choose, it is in the best interest of your child and I would stop watching those videos that make you second guess yourself!  Whatever you choose, know that you researched your decision and fretted it, makes you a good Mama!  GL!

gizmo538
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 4:39 PM

 Thank you for sharing that with me.

Quoting GELiz:

YOur preference. this is what I believe to be true. There is less cervical cancer in women married to circumcised men- do not know if that is a cause or not.

Adult men have had to have circumcision due to an infection that will not go away- the ones that I know of said they wish they had had a circumcision when they were little.

My first son's circumsicion was not done well. I have never discussed with him his issues.

My brother had one due to the end of his penis being too small.

So I guess it is just your choice.

 

We are the music makers, and we are the dreamers of dreams.
EvilAsh
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 4:40 PM
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well I worked in a nursing home and saw many penises in my day (lol). None had issues. Only when they weren't cleaned properly. Don't trust Mom Confessions though. There really is NO medical reason to cut your kids. 

Quoting gizmo538:

 I never heard of it either until today as a matter of fact. There's a post floating around somewhere in the group "Mom Confessions" about circumcision and a lot of the ladies there seem to be for circumcision and some mentioned problems that some members of their family had that were not circumcised. It made me doubt my decision a little.

Quoting EvilAsh:

I've personally never heard of issues from not being circumcised before. I used to be for circ until I watched the videos and actually read up on it. Now I will never circ my boy if I'm having one. I'll find out in 5-7 more weeks.

 


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