Diagnosed with Asperger's as an adult * long * PIOG Posted by bluedolly
He is 54 though and just doesn't see that an official dx will make any difference at this point in his/our life and I agree with him.
Quoting GirlWithANikon:Maybe he is looking for something though. I swore up and down, as did many people I know I was bi polar, even a dr did. Come to find out nope.
I just scored way above the diagnostic 31 on this test http://www.aspergerstestsite.com/75/autism-spectrum-quotient-aq-test/#.USciXFfNk35 and took two others that said I have aspergers. I don't lol.
Maybe he doesnt want an offical DX bc he is worried he is wrong and doesnt have aspbergers and he just feels different. I would support his choice to go. I would let him know that lots of people have lots of different kinks or issues but everyones got some stuff, thats what makes us all normal.
If he doesnt see the point why does he discuss it and test him self?
Quoting bluedolly01:
Its the opposite actually - he is absolutely convinced that he has it.
He is 54 though and just doesn't see that an official dx will make any difference at this point in his/our life and I agree with him.
Quoting GirlWithANikon:Maybe he is looking for something though. I swore up and down, as did many people I know I was bi polar, even a dr did. Come to find out nope.
I just scored way above the diagnostic 31 on this test http://www.aspergerstestsite.com/75/autism-spectrum-quotient-aq-test/#.USciXFfNk35 and took two others that said I have aspergers. I don't lol.
Maybe he doesnt want an offical DX bc he is worried he is wrong and doesnt have aspbergers and he just feels different. I would support his choice to go. I would let him know that lots of people have lots of different kinks or issues but everyones got some stuff, thats what makes us all normal.
I believe my ex lover has Asperger's. My therapist suspects she has it. She has been obsessive during our 25 year relationship, but the final straw was losing her to an internet "fan club' site. She has become so unfeeling that she could fall asleep while I was crying about our lost life which includes my adult children and our grandchildren. I fanally had to leave the home we both own and move to Rochester with my daughter and her family. I don't see her ever coming out of this one and I have to move on. This isn't easy for me.
He is worried that he may have passed it onto our children (something I think is worth discussing).
He doesn't feel that an official diagnosis will change or benefit our lives in anyway. I don't mind either way.
I met him and loved him foibles and all before he suspected this, a diagnosis isn't going to change that, I don't think our children have it so no need for an official diagnosis.
As for using it a a crutch, if anything he has been more of an effort to understand my feelings. Its seems like it might actually be a good thing for our relationship.
Quoting GirlWithANikon:If he doesnt see the point why does he discuss it and test him self?
Quoting bluedolly01:
Its the opposite actually - he is absolutely convinced that he has it.
He is 54 though and just doesn't see that an official dx will make any difference at this point in his/our life and I agree with him.
Quoting GirlWithANikon:Maybe he is looking for something though. I swore up and down, as did many people I know I was bi polar, even a dr did. Come to find out nope.
I just scored way above the diagnostic 31 on this test http://www.aspergerstestsite.com/75/autism-spectrum-quotient-aq-test/#.USciXFfNk35 and took two others that said I have aspergers. I don't lol.
Maybe he doesnt want an offical DX bc he is worried he is wrong and doesnt have aspbergers and he just feels different. I would support his choice to go. I would let him know that lots of people have lots of different kinks or issues but everyones got some stuff, thats what makes us all normal.
Quoting Jmt59:I believe my ex lover has Asperger's. My therapist suspects she has it. She has been obsessive during our 25 year relationship, but the final straw was losing her to an internet "fan club' site. She has become so unfeeling that she could fall asleep while I was crying about our lost life which includes my adult children and our grandchildren. I fanally had to leave the home we both own and move to Rochester with my daughter and her family. I don't see her ever coming out of this one and I have to move on. This isn't easy for me.
I do have my husbands cousin to talk to (her husband was dx as an adult but we didn't know this until AFTER my DH started suspecting) but I would like to talk to other people about it for different experiences if that makes sense?
Quoting kali_mom:
I don't have any experience with it but I commend you for seeking out support and guidance. Hopefully you can find some groups specific to partners of those who have or show signs of it and can get some assistance. Good luck !
Quoting 504bbymami:
Why did you say in the title "posted by bluedolly"??
Before 5yrs I think
Quoting bluedolly01:
How old were you when you were diagnosed?
Quoting Conner_Ian:I have it.
A question for those who have kids close in age..
When was your due date and when did you give birth?
- bluedolly01
on Feb. 20, 2013 at 3:20 PM