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potty issues with my almost four yo son.

Posted by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 2:48 PM
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He'll be 4 in April, he's seriously refusing ti poop in the toilet. he just sat here, literally two feet from the toilet n pooped!

he pooped in his pants 5 Times yesterday. We started training last January so its been over a year now.. he's had a few streaks where He poops in the toilet every day, longest being for almost. two months... so we know he knows how. ... he gets rewards for pooping in the toilet.



High fives from everyone in the house, but frankly we're all getting disgusted. he gets poop all over the bathroom, Throws tantrums when I try to clean him up, today I put his cousins pamper on him out of frustration. I don't know what to do!!



advice? Any Momma's Been through this before me? It almost seems like he might be doing it for attention. on the flipside of that he's home by himself with me all day and spend all day together.

Its like he's A broken CD stuck between being a baby and a big boy.... if that makes sense.
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sabrtooth1
by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 2:55 PM

Have you discussed this with the Dr?  A 4 year old should be potty trained.  Maybe it painful for him.  Maybe he's got some other issue.  Talk to the Dr first, then consider a counselor.  In the meantime, tell him if he still wants to be a baby he will have to wear pull-ups.  ALWAYS.

SewingMamaLele
by Bronze Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 2:55 PM

I would put him back in diapers and tell him that he has to wear baby diapers until he can poop in the potty.   My almost 4 year old was having issues wetting the bed, and I started putting a diaper on him at bedtime because I was tired of changing the sheets.   I told him that if he doesn't wet the diaper, he won't have to wear it anymore... 2 nights of wearing the diaper (and staying dry) and he hasn't wet the bed since.  

I wouldn't give so much attention when he goes in the potty, either.   It should be expected behavior, not celebrated.  

Bmat
by Barb on Feb. 21, 2013 at 2:56 PM
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I'd suggest that you insist on his rinsing out his own clothing and cleaning up his own mess. Even if you have to stand in the room and watch him while he does it. Don't act angry or upset, just be matter-of-fact. "uhoh, you missed the potty, so now it is time to clean up the mess, here are the wipes (or the cloth and cleaner), here is the soap so you can rinse out your undies in the sink, and then clean the sink."

la_bella_vita
by Gold Member on Feb. 22, 2013 at 2:21 PM

 Bump!

atlmom2
by Ruby Member on Feb. 22, 2013 at 2:29 PM
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Yep, my sister in law did this. He had to rinse his underware in the toilet, clean the floor etc. Pooping on foot from the potty, he knows what he is doing, but being defiant.


Quoting Bmat:

I'd suggest that you insist on his rinsing out his own clothing and cleaning up his own mess. Even if you have to stand in the room and watch him while he does it. Don't act angry or upset, just be matter-of-fact. "uhoh, you missed the potty, so now it is time to clean up the mess, here are the wipes (or the cloth and cleaner), here is the soap so you can rinse out your undies in the sink, and then clean the sink."


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AngelicMommy_72
by Bronze Member on Feb. 22, 2013 at 2:34 PM
He hated the diaper yesterday... it embarrassed the hell out of him... I'm hoping it worked. We'll see


Quoting SewingMamaLele:

I would put him back in diapers and tell him that he has to wear baby diapers until he can poop in the potty.   My almost 4 year old was having issues wetting the bed, and I started putting a diaper on him at bedtime because I was tired of changing the sheets.   I told him that if he doesn't wet the diaper, he won't have to wear it anymore... 2 nights of wearing the diaper (and staying dry) and he hasn't wet the bed since.  

I wouldn't give so much attention when he goes in the potty, either.   It should be expected behavior, not celebrated.  


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AngelicMommy_72
by Bronze Member on Feb. 22, 2013 at 2:38 PM
I sat he and SO down last night n I told him he WILL clean up his poop from now on. I explained inn detail what he will have to do, I reminded him again today... so far so good .


Quoting Bmat:

I'd suggest that you insist on his rinsing out his own clothing and cleaning up his own mess. Even if you have to stand in the room and watch him while he does it. Don't act angry or upset, just be matter-of-fact. "uhoh, you missed the potty, so now it is time to clean up the mess, here are the wipes (or the cloth and cleaner), here is the soap so you can rinse out your undies in the sink, and then clean the sink."


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Bmat
by Barb on Feb. 22, 2013 at 2:42 PM
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fingers crossed

Quoting AngelicMommy_72:

I sat he and SO down last night n I told him he WILL clean up his poop from now on. I explained inn detail what he will have to do, I reminded him again today... so far so good .


Quoting Bmat:

I'd suggest that you insist on his rinsing out his own clothing and cleaning up his own mess. Even if you have to stand in the room and watch him while he does it. Don't act angry or upset, just be matter-of-fact. "uhoh, you missed the potty, so now it is time to clean up the mess, here are the wipes (or the cloth and cleaner), here is the soap so you can rinse out your undies in the sink, and then clean the sink."



AngelicMommy_72
by Bronze Member on Feb. 22, 2013 at 2:43 PM
It probably is defiance....... he's goinng through this horrid treacherous three thing... testing my patience at every turn. I just can't wrap my mind around it, he hates for his clothes to get dirty but will poop in his underwear...


Quoting atlmom2:

Yep, my sister in law did this. He had to rinse his underware in the toilet, clean the floor etc. Pooping on foot from the potty, he knows what he is doing, but being defiant.




Quoting Bmat:

I'd suggest that you insist on his rinsing out his own clothing and cleaning up his own mess. Even if you have to stand in the room and watch him while he does it. Don't act angry or upset, just be matter-of-fact. "uhoh, you missed the potty, so now it is time to clean up the mess, here are the wipes (or the cloth and cleaner), here is the soap so you can rinse out your undies in the sink, and then clean the sink."



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atlmom2
by Ruby Member on Feb. 22, 2013 at 2:49 PM
Even better for him to clean up. Sick to your guns and don't give in.


Quoting AngelicMommy_72:

It probably is defiance....... he's goinng through this horrid treacherous three thing... testing my patience at every turn. I just can't wrap my mind around it, he hates for his clothes to get dirty but will poop in his underwear...




Quoting atlmom2:

Yep, my sister in law did this. He had to rinse his underware in the toilet, clean the floor etc. Pooping on foot from the potty, he knows what he is doing, but being defiant.






Quoting Bmat:

I'd suggest that you insist on his rinsing out his own clothing and cleaning up his own mess. Even if you have to stand in the room and watch him while he does it. Don't act angry or upset, just be matter-of-fact. "uhoh, you missed the potty, so now it is time to clean up the mess, here are the wipes (or the cloth and cleaner), here is the soap so you can rinse out your undies in the sink, and then clean the sink."




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