My DD turned 4 yesterday. She was an absolute terror all day and the day before. She screams and talks back. She also hits, kicks, and pinches. Sometimes she is so physical that I have to do a restraint hold on her until she calms down. I've tried everything to make her stop. We do time outs, I talk her through her feelings, I use a calm voice, we talk about why her behavior is wrong. Sometimes I send her to her room to scream it out, sometimes I can reason with her and help her calm down.
Ask my mother, I discipline all day and nothing seems to work. I don't even know what to do anymore, it's just exhausting.
Yesterday she grabbed my hair and scratched my forehead hard enough to make it bleed. Then before bed she freaked out and started screaming so I spanked her and told her I was done and that she pushed it to far. She cried and screamed a little more and I told her if she was going to keep it up I was going to spank her again. She said "ok". Stopped, and went to bed with just a few whimpers.
It seems like I got through to her, but I don't want to do that all the time. She knew she was wrong. I just want my sweet little girl back. Not this terror she has become over the last couple years.