please read all of it so you understand the situation. My sons(4yr old) father passed away 2 years ago. My son didnt even know his dad because he was literally crazy he made death threats and even tried to kill himself and he was a hardcore drug user so i kept him away from him and the state put a mandatory restraining order against him. Anyways so my son has his dads first name as his middle name and he has his dads last name. My son has only known my husband as his "dad". He is the only one in our household with a different last name. Me my husband and our daughter all have a different one then him. Im thinking about changing his last name to ours. The only thing is I think his grandma (my sons fathers mom) would be so pissed about it. I dont know what to do. Im afraid when he gets older he will have problems and not feel like hes a part of the family because he has a different last name. Should i change it or keep it the same? I also dont know how i feel about him having his dads first name as his middle name even though its a tradition on his dads side of the family. Any suggestions would help.