Hopefully I can make this as short as possible. I joined this site to help my BFF with her 4 year old.
K has been a single mother for the past 4 years to a beautiful girl, Ellie.
This last Christmas, K got married to a wonderful man, who doesn't have kids of his own. He has been more than willing to treat Ellie as his child. He doesn't spank her, he has a clean background so no misbehaving on his part and treats K very very well.
Ellie has been whining a lot, lately, to the point were I want to smother her. No I haven't and WILL NOT do it, it's just irritating that she does it WAY too much. K has given me full permission to give Ellie 5 warnings before spanking her. I have only spanked her once and regretted it.
Ellie has spent her 4 years with just Kendra and me coming and going since I do have my own life. Her sperm doner of a father refuses to help out and isn't in the picture. Family doesn't want anything to deal with her either.
K has always let Ellie sleep in the same bed as her, gives her practically everything she wants and still treats her as an infant which is annoying. I constantly have to tell K that Ellie is too old to be spoiled and needs to learn that she needs to share and not have every thing she wants.
Ellie refuses to stay in her own bed, which it's hard to explain to her why she cannot. We both have to constantly fight with her to keep her in bed. Like tonight, she's asleep on the couch because she refused to stay in bed and K spanking her more then once wasn't working. Now since K has to go to work at 4am, Im stuck watching her fall asleep and take her into her bedroom.
There are more things, but I don't want to keep typing at this point in time.
Please, any and all suggestions will be helpful and K is more then willing to take in the advice.
Ellie is her first and only child. Since K had Lupus at the age 15 she was told she couldn't have kids. We call Ellie her miracle child.
BIG THANKS to whoever reads this and take your time out of your day, away from your children to respond.