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Should I be concerned

Posted by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 10:32 AM
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My son will be 16 months next week.  I mentioned to my doctor that he still really isn't 'talking' .  He doesn't really say mamma or dada yet.  He makes gesturesl, mimics us and what I think is attempts to say mamma.  My Dr gave me the feeling as if this could be cause for concern.  Not sure if there is something I could/should be trying or looking for.

by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 10:32 AM
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by Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 10:47 AM

My daughter wasn't talking at 3. She understood everything but didn't even say Mama or Daddy. Everyone told me that she would talk when she was ready, but I knew something was wrong. I took her to be tested at a local speech center, and she started having speech therapy twice a week, once individually and once in a group. When she did start talking, it turned put that she had an articulation disorder. By the time she was in kindergarten, you couldn't have told that anything was wrong. She spoke perfectly normally, so normally that the kindergarten screening didn't pick up a thing. She never stopped talking once she started. Today she is a social worker with a Master's degree. My message is, get your son screened if you feel that something is wrong, and if he needs help, start early, especially if you feel that the doctor feels something is wrong. 

by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 10:50 AM

Thanks, I will keep that in mind.  The Doctor said we will 'visit' this again at his 18month check up.

by Ruby Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 10:53 AM
My youngest dd didn't say but a few words until 2. It is normal. Does he do things you tell him? Comprehend things? If so he is fine. It has nothing to do with intelligence either. My oldest talked before 1 and struggled in school some. My dd that didn't talk till 2 made awesome grades.
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by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 11:07 AM

I wouldnt think it would be that big of a concern yet. Every kid is different. I would just do what your dr suggests and keep an eye on it for awhile. The dr will let you know when or if its time to see a specialist but I dont think a 16 mo old not talking is cause for alarm unless there are other signs that something is wrong.

by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 11:20 AM

Thanks, that is what my heart was kinda telling me.  That he is ok every baby develops differently.  My Dr asked how he communicates/tells me what he wants.  I didn't really have a good answer but then I just assumed it was because I always just 'anticipate it' like when he starts getting fussy.  Then I thought mayve I should encourage him to 'tell' me more instead of just assuming.  The Dr seemed a little more at ease when I told him that he walks around "talking and gesturing on his phone"  He does lots of babbling and mumbling.

by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 11:23 AM

Does he make eye contact? Does he reciprocate smiles, gestures, etc.? Does he make attempts to communicate through sounds, gesturing, etc.?

I've always heard that those things are much more important than whether they're saying actual words. Also, at this age (my daughter is 17 months) sometimes they're saying what are words to THEM, but it just sounds like gibberish to us. When my girl says "door", for example, it sounds like "doh".

by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 11:54 AM
Are you doing too much for him so he doesn't have the need to talk? Are you talking to him in normal conversation voice?

If he babbles then I definitely wouldn't worry.
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by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 12:04 PM

Yes he smiles, and gets big ol' grins when you say his name (espcially when he hears his dad on the phone).  Also the other day I asked him where his 'Elmo' was and he went and got it.  I try to limit his TV exposure, but he we all need a min to cook, clean or 5 min to get something done.  LOL so when I am tyring to wrap something up and he is wanting my attention ( I give it to him, but those moments when I am trying to finish dinner etc.) I will ask him if he wants to watch Sesame Street and he runs into the room and gets ready to watch.  So I know he understands what that means.

I have considered that I may be doing too much for him and he doesn't need to talk.  I do talk to him in a normal conversation voice.  I do feel he is talking to me in his own way.  It is just babbles, to me, but I feel he thinks he is carrying on full converstaions. 

by Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 12:07 PM
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Your son is attempting speech and that is a good sign!

At 15 months my son didnt babble, make gestures, respond to his name, attempt or mimic anything.. we had major concerns. He was diagnosed with a severe expressive & receptive language disorder. We started early intervention and speech therapy and after 18 months he started to gesture and respond to his name. He is now 2 and finally starting to babble and mimic sounds!

If you do have concerns you can contact your local Early Intervention program. Your pediatrician can give you the number. They will evaluate your son and let you know if he needs services. It's free! It doesnt hurt and it is best to get the ball rolling as soon as possible if there is a speech delay!

by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 12:16 PM
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My son was speech delayed and went through Early Intervention and special pre-k through our township.  He hardly babbled at all, and the only time he did make noise, it was only "ahhh".  He had no consonants at all, never attempted to imitate us, but could understand everything we said.  I didn't hear "mama" til he was almost 3 and a half.   He is almost 6 now and you can't tell he was delayed at all. 

Does your son babble at all?  If he is, and is trying to mimic, but doesn't have any "words" yet, I would wait til 18 months.  If you are still worried, or just want reassurance, you can contact your state's Early Intervention program and request an evaluation.  Our eval and services were free. 

Hope this helps.  :)

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