So I left for an hour to clean my car and run a few errands.. my daughter stayed home with daddy.. i get home my daughter comes running out telling me "daddy grounded me for a week".. now mind you my daughter is 6 years old.. im like hu? why did daddy ground you for a week? she says i wasnt listening.. so i go in and talk to my husband.. he goes on to tell me exactly what our daughter did... nothing over the top and very typical for her behaviors.. nothing I dont deal with on a daily basis all day long.. the part he said that pissed him off was that she tried pushing him out of her room.. now come on, her room is her safe place.. the place she can go to calm down.. why is he following here there?!!! so thats when he tells her hes grounded for a week. we got into a dispute over this (not in front of her of course, i would never argue with him over a punishment in front of her)... I dont feel its an appropriate punishment for a six year old who also has developmental and emotional delays... (specifically asd and anxiety)... I figure grounded for the evening would suit it better.. he rolls his eyes at me and huffs and puffs.. so i told him he is not the one that has to deal with all of this, and I will not leave her home with him if he cannot handle her for even an hour without going over the top!
So my DH and I had a talk.. I explained to him my reasoning why grounding her for a whole week seemed a bit steep... he explained why he felt it wasnt... I told him that I will not enforce a whole week... She was grounded for the rest of the night to her room (since that is the punishment he came up with in the first place the grounded to her room) and sent to bed early... tomorrow is a fresh new day and hopefully she will have learned her lesson... I am also going to make it a point he NEEDS to come to her therapy sessions because we need to be on the same page.. thank you ladies for your input.
LAST EDIT: I am not one to delete posts, so I am going to say it here.. thank all ladies who gave constructive input (you know who you are, the ones that didnt try and rip me apart for being upset)..... everything is good now.. we talked extensivly about getting on the same page, and discussed proper punishements that we both agree on, and have agreed to have a family appointment with her therapist so we can all maintain a same page stance! :) so all in all, the mountain came, we climbed it, and now are over it! :)