I share custody of my older two children (Addyson, 5 in Kindergarten and Karder 4 in Preschool) with their dad. I get them 8 days in a row and he gets them 6 days in a row. He lives literally 3 blocks up the road (same road) so the kids are able to have almost the same routine no matter which parent they are with.
Well, we just had parent teachers conferences this past week and I honestly think that this agreement might be hurting their school. Plus, my kids are ALWAYS getting sick at their dads (Karder was in his dads custody when he landed in the hospitalthis past weekend with strep that caused erythema nodosum) and I think it is because of the fact that they have at least 3 dogs, 1 cat, Birds, and I think some other "rodent" like thing. My son Karder has a few breathing issues. My kids have told me that the animals go to the bathroom in the house, but their dad/step mom cleans it up and they ALWAYS stink when they come back from his house.
So I brought it up to my ex that maybe we should change custody because their school work is suffering (I didn't bring up the sickness fact, because I am trying to get him to agree without a court battle) and I even brought up the idea that I would drop his child support as long as he still provided insurance and half of medical and school expenses.
Well, DH isn't happy about me saying I might agree to dropping child support (he currently pays me $200 a month) and I understand why, but I think the only way my ex will agree to changing custody to me having primary custody and him getting visitation on wednesday nights and every other weekend/holiday is if he doesn't have to pay child support. My DH and I are not loaded, we are probably considered "poor" but we do not receive PA (their dad does though) and we are working hard at becoming debt free (besides are house payment, we only have two other bills to pay off). I also currently only work when we don't have the older two because otherwise it wouldn't pay for me to work if three kids (or even just 2 when Addyson is in school) are in daycare, so I don' know how we would work that out yet either.
What would you guys do?
*Wife to Joel since 10-2-10*
*Mother of Addyson, Karder & Everett *
*Angel Babies 1/19/11 & 4/23/11*
on Mar. 27, 2013 at 9:58 AM