So I have 3 kids 7yrs, 2yrs, and 2 weeks old. The evenings my husband is home are great especially with a newborn baby.
My husband's best friend the other night around 9pm texts my husband saying "I am almost at your house, lets go." He didn't make plans with my husband before that or anything that is all he said. My husband was taking care of our toddler while I was tending to the baby at the time. My husband got all excited and wanted to go with him. I was upset. We have a new born baby, I have been looking forward to a hot shower, I was thinking about if the baby would be going to sleep soon and how soon I could get our 2yr old to bed after that. My husband was upset b/c I didn't want him to go. I never said he couldn't go but he knew I didn't want him to go.
He stayed, only b/c his friend just left b/c my husband text him that I was getting "pissed'. I knew that if he stayed it would be a "well, are you happy? I stayed home." kind of thing and sure enough it was. We ended up having a looooong night anyways. Our toddler was overly tired and the baby is a new born so she was up and down and she sometimes does this thng where she stays awake for about 3 hours nursing off and on. Who knows when I would have gotten our toddler to bed if my husband wasn't home.
Today I find out that he was going to take my husband to a concert. I am glad, even more now, that he didn't go.
His friend has a 7 month old baby. He knows how it is in the begining. He said no to doing things with my husband several times when he had a newborn at home. I think it was highly inconciderate to just show up and expect my husband to drop everything and ditch me with the kids and take him out. I am very good about "he is the man and works" and "I am the woman and a sahm so I do the house work and tend to the kids" but we have a new born and evenings/nights are long/hard right now.
So again I am the bad guy, no wonder my husbands friends do not seem to like me... just needed to vent