How do you save someone from making a big mistake?
My best friends boyfriend has asked her to marry him and she said yes. I knew he was planning on asking her and didn't think it was a good idea but didn't say anything until a few nights ago. She sends me a message asking if she made the right choice of saying yes and I said no and here's why;
- He's a drunk. All he wants to do is drink and party and when he gets drunk (which is very often) he gets mean and I fear he'll become violent.
-He doesn't respect her at all. It's his way or no way. She has no voice in their relationship.
-He's planning on getting fixed because he doesn't want children. She wants kids so bad but he flat out says no kids and that's the end of it.
-He takes every dime she earns and gives her an allowance. Unless she's paying the bills or buying food for the house she's not allowed to have more than $20.
-She's not allowed to drive their car.
All this points to an abusive relationship and I told her I didn't want to see her hurt or worse dead. That she needs to leave him and if she needs a place to stay she's more than welcome to stay with us until she can afford her own place.
She got so mad at me after I told her what I thought and now refuses to talk to me. How can I convince her he's bad news?