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does it make a difference..

Posted by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 2:33 AM
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I just got marry and my question is that does it make a difference if I don't change my last name , would it affect me , don't get me wrong I love my husband very much and our kids have his last name .. I just don't see why I gotta change it ... Plz no bs
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frndlyfn
by Platinum Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 2:42 AM
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I dont think it does.  if you want to keep it , go ahead.  Any school the children go to may get confused but they will figure it out.   I do not have the same name as my guy or dd and frequently get called Mrs X instead of my last name.  It is even funnier when he gets called by my last name.

blondie.mom
by Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 2:46 AM
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Doesn't make a difference, lots of women now days keep their maiden names. Go for it :)
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katiebeth1821
by Silver Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 3:21 AM
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I dont think it makes a difference. I hate trying to explain to my kids why I have a different last name. They ask me questions about it and I try to answer them.

I get called my boyfriends last name all the time they say Ms. then his last name I just let it go not a big deal. Dont stress yourself over it. Like someone posted already its really common now.

polkaspots
by Bronze Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 3:38 AM
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Legally it doesn't matter what your name is. Given how the societal norm is for women to take their husbands' names, you'll probably get called mrs. His last name a lot, but it doesn't matter. I hyphenated my last name because I didn't want to just have his last name. I'm going to change it soon though. It's a pita to write every time I use my debit card.
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jesuschild06
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 7:18 AM
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doesnt matter but i would recommend finding out how hubby feels and work it out with him.
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notsowicked11
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 8:36 AM
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it is not a requirement to change your last name. a lot of women don't these days. 

atlmom2
by Platinum Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 8:57 AM
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It doesn't make a difference but you will be called Mrs whatever your dh and kids names are some. My neighbor is a doctor. She professionally goes by her maiden name, but otherwise goes by her dh and kids last name. Legally not sure if her name is hyphenated or what.
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PinkButterfly66
by Bronze Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:03 AM
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No it doesn't make a difference.  It does get to be a pain when people insist on calling you Mrs. (his last name).  But in the end, as far as all the legal paperwork, nothing will change.  That's why I kept my last name, I simply didn't want to have to change all that paperwork. I'm also a feminist and at 34 (when I got married), I was quite attached to my last name.

motherslove82
by Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:12 AM
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Lots of people keep their last name. I wanted the same "family name" as my family, but that was me. If you don't want to change it, there's no law saying you have to. :-)
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whoodathunk
by Bronze Member on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:22 AM
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You don't have to.  It can cause a lot of contention if it matters to your spouse. 

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