So I'm having a two part issue with my 2 1/2 year old baby girl. The first is more annoying than anything but I still would love to figure out a way to resolve it.
For some reason, she just WILL NOT allow her sister, 10 months, to get any sleep. Every time I'm trying to put the baby to sleep I will explain to her that she needs to please be quiet and she sneaks into whatever room I'm in and yells or drops something or sits down and starts playing with a musical toy. When I tell her it isn't very nice that she isn't letting her sister sleep, she just smiles at me. It's awful!! I don't know how to get her to understand that she is being very inconsiderate.
The second issue is worse. She has been throwing these EPIC tantrums and I can't seem to get her to calm down. I'm talking screaming NO at the top of her lungs, kicking, hitting, for an hour or more and sometimes until she throws up. I have tried placing her on her time out mat to calm down. I have tried holding her as tightly as I can and telling her it's okay. I have tried making her count to ten and then taking a deep breath which works during her normal tantrums but not these epic ones. I have tried placing her in her room or even in her crib to let her cry it out and as I've mentioned, it lasts for a good hour.
There is no situation I can pin point that cause them. They happen randomly. One issue I have is that she flails around and bangs herself up so I don't want her to hurt herself. The second thing is the way she screams, I get nervous that the neighbors will think I'm beating her!! I mean she SCREAMS at the top of her lungs as though I were actually hurting her! I hate to see her like this and I've truly tried every calm reaction I can think of and nothing is working.
And they are becoming more frequent and lasting longer. I actually sometimes feel like there is something physiologically wrong with her because she just gets so out of control. And sometimes they come at a really inopportune moment like when I need to feed the little one and so she is also crying or when I have to drive my son to work because he just started working and is saving up for a car.
I'm truly at my wits end. She is normally such a happy little girl but these past few weeks she has just been MISERABLE and I can't figure out why. The only difference in the family dynamic is that her father and I have not been speaking very much but I can't see how that would cause her to throw these tantrums. Any thoughts? And please no comments about me letting my child step all over me because aside from actually beating the crap out of her, I'm doing everything I can to curb her behavior.