DH and I are completely at our wits end. Both of our older boys, DS5 and SS5, have been acting absolutely HORRIBLE over the last few months. Their behavior has gotten steadily worse over the past year. They refuse to listen, have no respect for anyone or anything, destroy everything they can get their hands on (breaking windows, getting into things that don't belong to them, busting holes in walls, breaking toys, you name it, they've done it). We've done everything we can possibly think of, rewards and consequences, time outs, correcting behavior, grounding, spanking, we've even worked with the teachers and principal at school, absolutely nothing works. We're open to suggestions from anyone at this point. DS does have an appointment with a behavioral specialist in two weeks, and SS has seen a counselor due to past issues from BM. Please don't bash, we really have tried everything we can think of, we're just looking for fresh ideas. Thank you in advance.
Sorry I didn't have time to update after DS's appointment yesterday. He has been diagnosed with ADHD, and has tendencies for ODD. The doctor wants to treat the ADHD first, because she believes his ODD tendencies are due to his impulse control from the ADHD. So, he started taking medicine today, and will go back to the doctor on the 30th. We're really hoping this will make a difference in his behavior. She also wants us to praise his good behavior (which we already do) and to ignore the attention based bad behavior. Basically, we want him to learn that bad behavior doesn't get him the attention he wants, only good behavior will. Here's hoping it all works!
on Apr. 7, 2013 at 12:46 PM