My kids age 4 and 8 seem to argue about EVERYTHING! I try to let them work their problems out without getting involved but listening to the whining arguing drives me nuts to the point that I'm now aggravated as well. I really want them to learn to get along without me helping them through every fight, but I don't know how to help. My daughter does something that she knows will piss off her brother and then acts innocent and clueless as to why he tried to hit her. My son whines and cries over everything and always has to win or he has a meltdown. I've never been great at dealing with things myself and I'm having a hard time helping my kids. Plus I was an only child for most of my life and didn't have to deal with siblings. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated!