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Help my son is driving me crazy!!!!!

Posted by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 5:15 PM
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My 6 year old ds is doing bad in school he so when
I seen he his report card I grounded him for one week.
He had a complete melt down and said he hates his life
he also said we always ground him and he never does anything
fun ( not true) he was crying hysterically. However, I can not
condone this behavior or the fact that he did horribly
in school. He is lazy and thinks he doesn't have to
do his work in school or at home he cries and whines
about everything idk what to do to make this stop
My child with add and adhd doesn't even act this way.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Ps it had been an hour and he is still crying and telling me he hates
This stupid world and telling me I don't tell him I missed him at school
Or that I love him.
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 5:15 PM
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frndlyfn
by Platinum Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 5:20 PM

Do you use any other consequences and how long do you ground him for?  I have noticed with my dd that an undetermined grounding like "until you do better" has no effect since it gives them no motivation to do better, they just see it as being eternally stuck in grounding.  Has he been evaluated just in case it is a learning thing not all laziness?  Each day, stay in close contact with his teacher and sit down with him for any homework.  The hard part is staying calm since we feel the frustration of a child not reaching their potential.  My dd is in 1st grade and just turned 7.  When she starts getting hysterical crying we do breathing exercises to help slow the emotions down and then she lays on her bed since this behavior only comes up when she is tired or hungry.

jackiewal10
by Gold Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 5:20 PM

I think you need to get to the root of the problem.  He's 6.  I doubt he's lazy.  Maybe he has a learning disability that is preventing him from totally understanding what is going on.  Maybe there is something going on at school.  Maybe he's being bullied.  Maybe he feels like the teacher is mean to him.  Grounding him for bad grades at the Kindergarten/first grade level isn't going to get you very far. 

timntorie
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:13 PM
Thanks for the input I only grounded him from the computer he still
has his toys. I am very concerned about his feelings. He says he has no
friends in his class he did have a bully from another class I went to the
principal about it but he didn't know any of their names so she is still trying
to figure it out. I don't think he has a learning disability, he was doing a lot
better in school than I thought but not good enough to pass. At this
point I am upset that he has these problems. Also the class has a color
System and blue is the best then green then yellow he always gets green
or yellow. Ds says he tries very hard to get blue but never does. I have never
seen him get blue, he is VERY UPSET ABOUT THIS! I wonder what's going on.
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