I am new here, but Im looking for some folks who have had the same issues. I am a mom of three amazing boys. Twins that are 8 and and my little one is 5. I LOVE being a mom. Im home with them all day and work as an art instructor a couple nights a week.
I have a great life and by no means am I ungrateful. It took us three years of infertility for the twins and my younger son came naturally. I am so elated that I have had two amazing baby experiences. Thing is, I don't feel in my heart I am done. I have struggled the last 3 years because I have wanted one more while my husband is against it. We don't fight since we respect each others wishes. Hes a good dad, and three kids are a ton of work and of course its expensive. It makes sense to stop and I don't doubt his reasoning. But from a moms perspective, I don't feel done. And no, this isn't about having a girl, I just love my children regardless. Another baby boy would be a blessing :)
Please tell me there are others in this position? He has a consult next week for the vasectomy, and I don't want this to be a thing I resent him for. Im afraid. We have a good relationship and I dont want it tarnished.
We have talked and talked about this. I dont see a way out. Will I get over this? Will I always wonder about the one we didnt have?
Thanks for listening. :)
on Apr. 20, 2013 at 10:21 PM