My dd is 14 and sometimes she drives me crazy, but not bc of the usual teen stuff. She can't stand noises. She is always telling me to shush, bc I eat too loud, or I breathe too loud, or I move my tongue in my mouth and she hears it, ot whatever. It seems like everything I do makes a sound and she can't stand it. She comes in my room and lays on my bed to watch tv, but the sheets have to be perfectly straight and even, with no bumps or creases or it drives her nuts. She won't eat certain things, like she hardly ever eats meat, won't eat anything that smells funny, or that has too thick of a texture, like mashed potatoes. We can't ever go out and do a lot of fun things, like the movies or bowling, or sometimes even shopping. The movies are too loud, she doesn't like 3-D, and she gets really annoyed when too many people are sitting close to her, or people are making noises. Bowling or malls we have the same problems. Too many people, too much noise, too much activity and stimulation.
I just don't know what to do with her anymore. the constant shushing and constant demands are driving me nuts. Added to all the other issues she has anxiety and gets freaked out sometimes if she hears strange noises at home, or if the hallway is dark, or that sort of thing. I wondered SPD but she's a little old to be diagnosed with that, I'd think. Wouldn't the drs and teachers and other people say something if that was the case? Her ped said take her to a psychiatrist, and I am trying to get her an appointment, but can they even diagnose that? Or is she just a quirky, weird kid? I try to be patient but I am tired of being told to be quiet all the time. I can't stop making all noises. I would love to be able to go to fun places. I would love to be able to cook foods that *I* love, like meatloaf, but when it's just the two of us and I know she won't eat it, what's the point? Sometimes I can't even order that kind of food if we go out, bc sometimes the smell makes her nauseous. What do I do now?