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What is wrong with my teen?

Posted by on Apr. 21, 2013 at 11:31 PM
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My dd is 14 and sometimes she drives me crazy, but not bc of the usual teen stuff. She can't stand noises. She is always telling me to shush, bc I eat too loud, or I breathe too loud, or I move my tongue in my mouth and she hears it, ot whatever. It seems like everything I do makes a sound and she can't stand it. She comes in my room and lays on my bed to watch tv, but the sheets have to be perfectly straight and even, with no bumps or creases or it drives her nuts. She won't eat certain things, like she hardly ever eats meat, won't eat anything that smells funny, or that has too thick of a texture, like mashed potatoes. We can't ever go out and do a lot of fun things, like the movies or bowling, or sometimes even shopping. The movies are too loud, she doesn't like 3-D, and she gets really annoyed when too many people are sitting close to her, or people are making noises. Bowling or malls we have the same problems. Too many people, too much noise, too much activity and stimulation. 

I just don't know what to do with her anymore. the constant shushing and constant demands are driving me nuts. Added to all the other issues she has anxiety and gets freaked out sometimes if she hears strange noises at home, or if the hallway is dark, or that sort of thing. I wondered SPD but she's a little old to be diagnosed with that, I'd think. Wouldn't the drs and teachers and other people say something if that was the case? Her ped said take her to a psychiatrist, and I am trying to get her an appointment, but can they even diagnose that? Or is she just a quirky, weird kid? I try to be patient but I am tired of being told to be quiet all the time. I can't stop making all noises. I would love to be able to go to fun places. I would love to be able to cook foods that *I* love, like meatloaf, but when it's just the two of us and I know she won't eat it, what's the point? Sometimes I can't even order that kind of food if we go out, bc sometimes the smell makes her nauseous. What do I do now?

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MommySwiggles
by Bronze Member on Apr. 21, 2013 at 11:33 PM
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It sounds like a sensory processing disorder to me. I suspect my 12yo brother has it too. He is very picky with textures.
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pce68
by on Apr. 21, 2013 at 11:45 PM

I wondered if that is her problem, but I don't know. I have read some stories of kids who have been diagnosed with SPD and they seem much much worse than her. Like major meltdowns when the sensory issues get too much for them to handle. She has never been that bad. She would get upset but I was always able to calm her down. It was never major, major meltdown, so that makes me wonder if she really fits the criteria or not. Maybe it's a milder case, Idk.

Quoting MommySwiggles:

It sounds like a sensory processing disorder to me. I suspect my 12yo brother has it too. He is very picky with textures.


pce68
by on Apr. 21, 2013 at 11:46 PM

BUMP!

jenk928
by on Apr. 22, 2013 at 7:11 AM
2 questions..
1. Is this something new? Like has she always had these issues but on a smaller scale and they have gotten worse recently?
2. Is she like this at school? Or other places? Friends houses? Family members houses?

I feel for yo. I know it has to be difficult..
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Mommy2justone
by Mommy2justtwo on Apr. 22, 2013 at 8:56 AM

I have this actually, it is actually a hatred for these sounds. 
Learn to eat quieter.
My husband has learned to eat out of earshot of me.
If we eat something that isn't noisy we eat at the table together. But otherwise I have to eat with my headphones and Ipod on.
I hate it.

It's called Misophonia and I made a post about it a while ago actually.  

zboys
by on Apr. 22, 2013 at 9:34 AM

Interesting. 


Quoting Mommy2justone:

I have this actually, it is actually a hatred for these sounds. 
Learn to eat quieter.
My husband has learned to eat out of earshot of me.
If we eat something that isn't noisy we eat at the table together. But otherwise I have to eat with my headphones and Ipod on.
I hate it.

It's called Misophonia and I made a post about it a while ago actually.  



atlmom2
by Ruby Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 9:43 AM
Sounds OCD or sensory issues, or both. Get her some help but ai still wouldn't put up with her telling you to breathe to loud. She has to learn to deal and telling people she has issues with them will not work. She has to fix herself and not tell others they are the issue.
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Mommy2justone
by Mommy2justtwo on Apr. 22, 2013 at 9:46 AM

It's like nails on a chalk board to people who have misophonia. 
But I agree she can't go around in public telling people to stop breathing or eating loudly, breathing techniques should help in public. Head phones and an ipod for home, and don't try to do it on purpose.  
 

Quoting atlmom2:

Sounds OCD or sensory issues, or both. Get her some help but ai still wouldn't put up with her telling you to breathe to loud. She has to learn to deal and telling people she has issues with them will not work. She has to fix herself and not tell others they are the issue.


mamamiajk
by Platinum Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 9:48 AM

I would have her checked out bu a specialist It sounds like she has an underlying problem

kit_manson
by Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 9:53 AM
I am the same... I don't know what it is, but if you find out let me know. And maybe I could shed some light on her perspective, idk.
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