My husband is from Idaho and I am from wisconsin I met him in Idaho when I lived there a year and half and we had our first baby. He lost his job so we moved to WI cause his family wouldnt help and we stayed with my parents for a couple months til we were stable. We spent 4 1/2 years in WI my husband always wanted to move back to Boise but I think he was ok living in WI we had lots of fun he just had in his mind he wanted to go back to ID. I have so much family in Wisconson that was so supportive. My mom, then my dad and his wife, and my grandma and other relatives. I worked every other weekend and my parents helped out, my grandma picked up my oldest from pre-k many times and would take him to lunch and bring him home. If I took a class or wanted to just go to the store alone I could always ask my dad or grandma and they almost always could watch them. We were by family a couple times a week. We went to festivals, great america, baseball and football games, and did lots of things. I wanted to buy a house and my husband didnt want to cause he wanted to move back to Boise. So I agreed to move back.I just wanted to settle down. I wanted a house and if we ever did move I didnt want it to be after my son started kindergarten so I just agreed and tried to stay positive(which I was completely positive). My dad said I would hate it cause I wouldnt have the same support and I would just say we will be fine. Now my husband lost his job in WI and since we were trying to move he had a potential job in Idaho so we just moved back. I cry all the time. I am totally regretting it. We found a home to rent and wanted to try to buy in a year but I feel like I dont even care about buying a house here I just want to be back by my family. My husband has his parents and sister here but his sister and him are fighting since before we moved for no reason, and my husband was at the hotel sick when we were in boise and I met his parents out for dinner with my 2 boys. My oldest has lots of energy his mom told me "your scaring us" and then I asked if my husband used to be like that... her reply was he wasnt this bad. I can tell they wont be much help. My dad was at dinner too and mentioned their reactions. My in laws want everything perfect they also try to push us into catholic church and we dont go..Its not that we dont believe we just dont go. My kids are so used to be around so much love and I think that it is going to be very different.. I think i want to try it for a year and see how it goes than talk to my husband about moving back.. which I know wont go over well. He is so stubborn.He would also say things like well my parents dont get to see the kids but they didnt ever come to visit we were in WI for almost 5 years. They came once when we had our second baby cause my husband begged them, and another time for our wedding in June of 2011. And it is not cause of money they are well off. They just choose to not come for whatever reason.
But things might change and I may like it here. I am just scared if I dont like it I am stuck.
What would you do?
on Apr. 24, 2013 at 1:14 PM