How to keep my 16 year old out of jail? And help her to be happy?
I'm not exactly sure where to post this, feel free to redirect me.
My family life is very stressful. My husband is great, very supportive. We have three male adult children, and one daughter ('J'). She's having a lot of trouble, and also giving us a lot of trouble. She suffers from depression, ADD, and possibly bi-polar disorder (has yet to be diagnosed).
The other night we allowed her to stay at a friends house, who she's very close to and who helps her with her depression,and under the circumstances that the friend herself and her mother would watch our daughter very closely, because she is suicidal. That was a terrible decision we made, and now I greatly regret not keeping her under our supervision, however, it's not the family's fault. J attacked her friend and ran out, robbed a liquor store, and ended up in jail. The next day, she admitted to being high on cocaine throughout the ordeal.
We're at our wits end, we've tried close to everything to get her attitude in shape, and help her be happy. I need the perspective of more people. We have a very strict parenting method, which worked fine with our boys. We tried loosening up a bit, but she acted worse, and ended up in jail for a month. She's been in and out of jail for other offences, and faces the possibility of being in jail for upwards of 25-30 years. She's also been committed to a mental hospital for several months when she was younger.
All day she sulks around and screams at anyone but the above mentioned friend if they come too close, and if she can, sleeps. She has attacked me and my husband before, but we are not afraid of her. She refuses to go to school, and if she does, becomes involved in drugs. We have tried switching schools several times, and have settled on home schooling so we can watch her. I'm terrified of her falling prey to drugs again, because for a while, she was clean.
We are willing to do anything to help her. This is our beloved daughter. Thanks.