See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
Well.... He has decided that he wants a break. I'm not going to force him into a relationship that he doesn't want. But this is going to be a break. I'm not getting back together with him. 11 days befor my due date and he pulls this crap. He said he will always be there for Zander, and that he still wants to be in the delivery room. The plan was befor this happened was that he would be in the room, and stay with me the whole time during our hospital stay. So about 3 days. He was then going to drive us home and help me out the next few days until he had to work. Well now I have no clue what to do.
I'm trying to stay on good terms with him. I am heartbroken and hurt and completly disapointed in him. I gave him many chances to leave if he wanted to, and he decides to do it now, right befor I am due. I think if I tell him not to be in the room that will start a huge battle.
I want him in the room, but I honestly think that is something for a couple to go through. I probably won't see him until I go into labor. So it will be the first time I seen him since the break up.
I think it's pretty obvious he won't be staying with me the first few days in the hospital. I guess I'll have to have my parents drive me home..:/
But I don't know if I should let him in the delievery room or not. I think now, it would distract me and stress me out.
Thank you all for the advice! I am doing so much better today. I talked to him today, and it didn't seem any diffrent. The only thing is I kept calling him babe on accident, and that was emmbarasing. But I have decided to let him in the delivery room. I also asked if he still wanted to stay with me during the stay of the hospital. He said yes he would love that. Even if we aren't together, we are still good friends and we are still Zander's parents. He has a right to stay the first few nights with his son, and I'm not gonig to take that away from him. I know he will be a good father, and who knows. Maybe it will bring us closer together. Either way, I think I'm holding off a relationship for a while. Thank you all again! I appreciate it!