I'm looking to make some changes in my life and want to be very specific when discussing with DH. What things do you do to keep happy and sane?
For example:
* I need 1.5 hours tomyself 3 days per week to swim/run/go to the gym
* I need 4 hours per week to engage in my favorite hobby
* I need one evening per month to go out with my friends
* DH does the dishes because I do all the cooking (or whatever other chores DH might pitch in)
* I have a babysitter once/month so I can go run errands without help from toddler/baby
* Grandparents take the kids one night/month
* My kids are in daycare 10 hours/day while I work/commute
* I like to read an hour/day and am part of a book club
* I spend hours on cafemom whenever my kids are napping and that keeps me sane :)
I personally work full time from home while juggling my 2 little ones but I think everyone would have interesting ideas whether you work outside the home or not. What keeps you happy?
EDIT: I should clarify that the above are just ideas that I've heard from other people. I thought it might get the ball rolling. :) It seems like it might have confused people though-- those aren't all things I've done! :) I personally haven't had even a babysitter since Aug 6 when I was trying to get a few more focused hours of work done but I could still be available for breastfeeding and such and my kids could still get a lot of attention. (Very long story short, DH told me not to get that sitter again.) Now I need DH to step up (or be ok with us having a sitter) and give me a little bit of time off (even if time off is "time to focus on my full time job when it's not past midnight") or help out with dishes or a meal once per week... something. Just trying to figure out what other mamas do and how you're supported since I bet there are some creative arrangements. In my insanity, I phrased the question poorly. :)
If you work full time it seems like you would not have time to do all of that? IMO that is a lot to ask for. Does your hubby ask for those things too? When would you see your kids if they are in day care 10 hours a day? Some people are great at juggling all that, if you could do it I give you a lot of credit.
I wish I could get one night a week to get out of the house to do something for myself (even go someplace to read a book). My husband plays basketball Thurs. nights for a few hours and once a month gets out for a meeting Thurs. night before basketball. The night I am supposed to get out for a support group I want to go to he has his son (my step son) come over for dinner in which I am expected to cook for so I almost never get to go. It's annoying. Any tips for me?
I have a therapist. Medicine keeps me sane.
I'm just wondering with all that going on when do you have time to spend with the kids?
I met friends for coffee, sometimes for drinks. I would read, take a hot bath stuff like that
My son is in daycare from almost 9 AM until just after 6 PM everyday Monday thru Friday. I work those hours and it's the best I can do right now. Im also a single mother and while I have lots of family around me when im not at work im spending all the time I can with my son. Sometimes I may seem a little cooky because he's making me crazy but we manage. He's also learned that come about 8ish at night it's time for him to go to his room and play before bed (he's 3). Just ask your DH for some time to yourself.
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- poppys_mommy
on May. 13, 2013 at 7:13 PM