My DS , who is 5, will be graduating from preschool this coming week. There is going to be a small graduation ceremony with a reception afterwards. The preschool is in a church so this will all take place in their fellowship hall.
The director of the preschool posted a sign up sheet about a week ago, so that all the parents could list how many people they would have coming. That way, the preschool would know how much food, drinks etc to buy. We were told many times to invite family, friends, etc.
Here's my problem....
I was recently told that the school does not want siblings (babies) to attend this graduation because they are afraid that the siblings will "steal the limelight" from the preschool student They want the focus of the day to be on the preschooler and that they don't want the babies to steal the spotlight from the preschool class. I was basically told that if I brought my 1 year old to the ceremony that he would have to be put in the church nursery for the duration of the event.
This is upsetting to me for a few reasons.
1. I don't know the people who work in the nursery. This isn't my home church so I'm not even sure if these people have background checks or not. I've never really met these nursery workers so I would basically be trusting my baby to people that I've never met.
2. My 1 year old is going through severe separation anxiety. So my plopping him in a nursery full of people that he doesn't know would end up being upsetting to him. He would end up crying and screaming and it would be emotionally upsetting to him and my DH and I.
3. This is supposed to be a family event, and our 1 year old is part of our family. It would seem odd to me to be celebrating such a big milestone event for our 5 year old without our youngest DS being there. Older DS keeps saying that he wants his little brother to watch him graduate.
Most of my family plans on being at the graduation so we wouldn't have a babysitter to watch our 1 year old. We don't have any close friends that we would feel safe leaving our baby with.
Should I just tell the director that our 1 year old is coming and that's the way it has to be. Let her know that putting him in the nursery isn't an option at this point and that if he gets rowdy, we'll take him outside. Or should I let the director know that if our 1 year old isn't welcome, that our family won't be able to attend.
I would hate to not attend but I feel like the school is putting me in a very awkward position...