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Posted by on May. 20, 2013 at 1:11 AM
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This is from my iPhone so no perfect grammar. About a year ago I left my husband because I was unhappy. I have two children with him, a three year Daughter, and 6 year old son. I was no lOnger attracted to him whatsoever. We met when I was 16, pregnant at 18, baby at 19, house at 21, baby number two at 22. I went to school full time and worked. We grew apart. I look back I should of stayed. It's easier to raise kids as a family. Because u left I got nothing. A terrible car and a part time job. I have struggled with no support for the past year. $400 total. He has our house and car I have nothing. I dohave an associates in nursing but I'm still waiting to take my boards.. I have my kids full time and am now in a relationship. My ex won't help with our kids but ha his girlfriend with 5 kids living in our house. She drives the car still in my name. I had to quit my job at the Cleveland clinic as a nursing asst because I had no car or ride. I am so overwhelmed. I'm gonna get a lawyer and go for divorce and sole custody with every other weekend with their dad. Am I wrong to try and get sole custody. I thankfully live in a house where I don't pay rent. My bf buys my kids clothes. I feel guilty but I'm angry. I need advice. Sorry this is so long.
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lilmama8408
by Silver Member on May. 20, 2013 at 1:15 AM
If the car is in your name legally he cannot keep it. Its YOUR car, call the local PD and have them escort you to go get it.

File for CS asap so that he legally has to pay for them.

Good luck
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Drakenlilah
by on May. 20, 2013 at 1:20 AM
What about I'd the car is both of our names?


Quoting lilmama8408:

If the car is in your name legally he cannot keep it. Its YOUR car, call the local PD and have them escort you to go get it.



File for CS asap so that he legally has to pay for them.



Good luck

blessedmommie07
by Member on May. 20, 2013 at 1:23 AM
Definitely agree with this as well! If the car is in your name and not his he can't legally keep YOUR car. Also is the house in both names or just yours? If the house is yours then same thing though might have to check with a lawyer first to see if you can kick him out if it is in your name. Don't let him push you around.

Find a good attorney (some will work with you on payment plans) and sue for custody and child support as well as get a divorce. He needs to help provide for the kids as well being he is the dad and has to be responsible.

Though don't know if you could get sole. Depending on state most likely either shared or full custody with dad getting visitation rights.


Quoting lilmama8408:

If the car is in your name legally he cannot keep it. Its YOUR car, call the local PD and have them escort you to go get it.



File for CS asap so that he legally has to pay for them.



Good luck

blessedmommie07
by Member on May. 20, 2013 at 1:25 AM
You still have a right to the car though you might have to wait to settle that in court but if you drove it more then him I would fight in your divorce to get the car back. Assests I think are usually split 50/50. He can't just leave you with nothing whether he wants to or not.


Quoting Drakenlilah:

What about I'd the car is both of our names?




Quoting lilmama8408:

If the car is in your name legally he cannot keep it. Its YOUR car, call the local PD and have them escort you to go get it.





File for CS asap so that he legally has to pay for them.





Good luck


Drakenlilah
by on May. 20, 2013 at 1:27 AM
Some visitation would include weekend visits joint is half and half but his school is awesome and an hour away from his dad. The car is all I want. It's both of our names. So is the house.
lilmama8408
by Silver Member on May. 20, 2013 at 1:28 AM
If its in both names its more complicated but you can call and ask

Quoting Drakenlilah:

What about I'd the car is both of our names?




Quoting lilmama8408:

If the car is in your name legally he cannot keep it. Its YOUR car, call the local PD and have them escort you to go get it.





File for CS asap so that he legally has to pay for them.





Good luck

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Drakenlilah
by on May. 20, 2013 at 1:28 AM
I also asked for the kids things and he won't give them to me because his gfs kids uses the stuff all werk
frndlyfn
by Platinum Member on May. 20, 2013 at 2:41 AM

Yeah Consult a lawyer for your best options.  All these things should have been handled as soon as you left, who got what, the childrens belongings etc.

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