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Embrace Your Physical Flaws Now -- Before It's Too Late

Posted by on May. 23, 2013 at 8:33 AM
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Embrace Your Physical Flaws Now -- Before It's Too Late

by Kristen Chase

How to embrace your physical flawsI have a birthmark on the middle of my forehead that I covered up with bangs for most of my life.

And my ears, well, I joke that they can hear signals from Mars because they stick out so far -- so I keep them firmly hidden under mounds of hair. 

It only took me until mid-adulthood to realize that I was being completely ridiculous. Don't let it take that long for you.

I'm not sure what happened during my junior year in college, but it was around then that I realized I was foolish to cover up my forehead and my ears.

Maybe it was a hot guy who liked me. Or a trendy hairstyle I just had to try.

But I'm pretty sure there was something external that motivated me to get over my insecurities.

Amazingly, I was never made fun of or bullied for either of my physical imperfections, unless you count all my own negative self-talk that was probably meaner than anything anyone else would have said to me.

We're always our own worst critics, aren't we?

I suppose, like many people, I had the notion that beauty was equivalent to perfection (hey, thanks a lot, mainstream media!), and so I felt that any sort of flaw meant that I was unworthy. Tarnished. Tainted.

Now that I write it down, I know it sounds utterly crazy. Because it is.

These days, I'm much older and, thankfully, wiser. I've also had four kids -- which means I've got a few more physical flaws to worry about. And it's not worth the energy to obsess about such silly little things.

But I've also learned that beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors. It's the uniqueness in people that makes them gorgeous, not that they look like perfectly proportioned mannequins in stores or airbrushed supermodels in magazines.

I know now that all my beliefs about beauty were completely manufactured by completely unrealistic images.

I still wear bangs, actually, but because I like the style, not because I'm trying to hide something. I put my hair up in a ponytail or back in a headband, even if my ears still stick out.

I do it because I know I'm beautiful no matter how I look. And because I want my children to get that message now. But not in mid-adulthood like me.

Do you have physical flaws you've always wanted to change?

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ceciliam
by Cecilia on May. 23, 2013 at 10:50 AM

I've never really had anything I wanted to change.

iluv2read
by on May. 23, 2013 at 11:36 AM

 I've hated my double chin, but even when I'm thin I have that, so there's not much I can do about it without plastic surgery.

 
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MomToDarienne
by on May. 23, 2013 at 8:45 PM

I've always hated my height, I'm actually an average height, but it seems like everyone's taller than me. I can't stand it.

zboys
by on May. 23, 2013 at 9:54 PM

Yes.  The thing with me is it feels like my body is slowly falling apart the older I get.

lilblu399
by Bronze Member on May. 23, 2013 at 10:00 PM


I have a quarter sized birthmark on my left wrist, I always wore my watch on my right since I never want to cover it(Also it's how I tell my left from right,LOL)
I was teased about it in middle and in high school(some jerk called it my "g-spot" and one boy said I sucked up cat souls with it) But I never hated it or wanted it changed or gone.
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