Make her earn the money to replace the school book.
So today was my oldest dd last day of school.. She comes home with a note saying she owes 60 dollars for a school book that she lost.. Apparently she lost it near the beginning of school and neither she nor the school let me know that it had happened. She is pretty bad at taking care of things in general so I have come up with a plan. She is almost 12.. She is able to do some house cleaning and light yard work.. I have asked our families that if they have any kind of work she can do, to hire her and pay her what they think the job is worth. I think if she has to earn the money to replace the book herself maybe she will learn to take care of things and the value of money.. I feel like I can tell her 60 dollars is a lot all day long but she has no concept of how hard money can be to earn, and how much 60 really is in comparison to the 5-10 she usually has acess to at any one time.. What do you guys think.. do you think having to earn the replacement money (which dont get me wrong we could pay but its the point that we shouldnt have to if she had taken care of the book in the first place) will make her more responsible and teach her the value of money?
We also had a big talk about the fact that she has known about this all year and about a week ago they started telling her it had to be paiid and she waited till school was over before I found out.. She cant start school next year unless it has been paid.. That if she had come to me and told me she had made a mistake and needed help then while we wouldnt have been happy about the whole thing, she would have been in a lot less trouble for being honest and not hiding it than she is now after waiting so long. Hoping that if she understands she can tell us anything, that it doesnt mean there wont be trouble but that being upfront will keep it from being as bad.. that maybe if they do something really dumb like drinking and needing a ride home instead of driving or getting pregnant (god forbid) that if she comes to us with the problem we can handle it better.