darn i cant answer this. I am an older child of divorce.
Quoting frndlyfn:darn i cant answer this. I am an older child of divorce.
I was 12/13 at the time it happened. Many positives happened. My parents were able to still be friendly towards each other for the childrens needs. Mom had primary custody but dad stayed as active as he could in our lives. We saw him every other weekend , summers, holidays, etc. One positive for me was during those teen years I was able to call one of his friends if i needed to get out of the house and they would drive 3 hrs to come get me for weekend.
The key is for both parents to be mature and work together to form a new stable family life for the children.
How will affect the children? it is different for everyone. I would suggest counseling for them.
my parents got married when i was 3 and divorced when i was 5... my first step dad (they got married when i was 6) got my mom hooked on drugs, and fathers ex gf burned my clothes that her girls didnt want. i was physically, mentally and emotionally abused (thankfully not sexually abused). they got divorsed when i was 15, and the man my mom is married to now is awesome. he went from having one kid everyother weekend (his son lived with grandparents, and was from a previous marriage) to have 3 kids all at once all the time plus his own son... my father has never remarried... my parents actually had joint custody of me but i spent most of my life with my mom. i'm happy to say that i have a good relationship with my mom, my father, and my step dad (#2)...
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