So here it is l am mexican l have been here for 8 years and l am married to an italian from N.Y. this last Saturday our son had his birthday party so of course l have friends who speak english and friends who speak spanish at one point my sister in law (the wife of my husband's brother) grabbed my son and started playing with him she was sitting on a chair with him in her lap everything was fine until my son drop a dinosaur and he said half sentence in english and half sentence in spanish she didn't understand and started scolding my son telling him No, don't speak spanish to me say it in english what do you want?? My son got to a point where he wanted to get down and she didn't let him go she kept scolding him, finally l guess my son got distracted with his cake and stopped screaming and all that, l didn't noticed because l was serving the cake and busy with the guests but when they left all my female friends where very mad because how she acted and she treated my son, at the begining l was so mad because they where telling me all this stuff ( not at them, but at me because l didn't realize) anyway it has been on my mind ever since and l even want to call her and tell her not to treat my son like that again, and not EVER tell him not to speak spanish like if it was something wrong to speak it, she is italian she never speaks italian tho, but when my son was born l even told her l want you to teach him italian l mean the more he learns it is better, but l am not ashamed of my ethnicity and l want my son to be able to communicate with our family that don't speak english is that so bad??? Would you guys call her to tell her something???
I forgot to add that my son turned 3 so he's speaking but still doesn't have control of what language talk to who, my husband doesn't speak spanish so my son talks half and half it's not even that my son ONLY speaks spanish, all the cartoons are in english, the songs, the toys, etc l am the only one that speaks spanish with him.
So what you guys would do if you were in my shoes?
Update..--- thank you very much for all your advise for this time l am going to let it pass but l will keep my eyes wide open next time we see her, fortunately we don't see her very often, l hope it doesn't happen again but if it does l would make her very clear that whatever l teach my son is what l HIS MOTHER think that is the best for him that speaking two languages or more is not bad and also to keep her nose out of my life...
on Jul. 2, 2013 at 4:50 AM