Im so frustrated...my boyfriend is using me :(
Ive been with this guy for about five months now. Im a single mom of two kids. He's only taken me out on two dates and stood me up for one to hang out with his friends instead KNOWING that i already paid $70 to a babysitter.
Because i dont have a support system im pretty strapped when it comes to getting a sitter. He NEVER suggests group dates with the kids or plans anything. He comes over two -three times a week empty handed and he just inhales all of my food . I think he's using me for food. He is constantly asking what am i cooking. If i say im not cooking dinner he'll leave early ..if im cooking he'll stay . I make him pretty hefty plates to begin with and i make myself a super tiny plate and he'll go back and eat up all of my leftovers without even asking EVERY time. Some days he wont even wash out his dish..Like i made a huge breakfast two days ago and he inhaled it than just sat his dish in the sink for me to wash. A couple weeks ago we got into a argument and the next morning i was in tears and i told him he really hurt my feelings.He responded with " can i make myself a sandwich?" I was so dumbfounded at the audacity of him to ask about food when im breaking down in front of him and when i didnt respond he just put his clothes on and left not saying a word .
Im sick of feeding him! Im tired of him eating up everything and never offering or bringing anything over . I even suggested twice that he BUYS food and cooks for me and he didnt say a word about it.
I broke down today and told my aunt what's been going on and she was livid. She said no man should be acting the way that he does and he should be bringing groceries in for me and my kids not taking out of our mouths and she said she never had a bf like that and her husband courted and wooed her and always gave her money so she told me to ask him for $50 a week towards groceries.
I know he doesnt have alot of money so I sent him a text asking for $20 a week. I just told him i fell on hardtimes... He said he'd give me the $20 a week...and all last week he promised he would take me to the movies and tonight he said he texted me and said that he's not doing both because he is tired of recklessly spending his money. I pointed out to him that he NEVER spends any money on me and why would he cut his girlfriend out of his budget. Were dating so we should be going on dates.He just kept telling me no. I told him he never puts me first and i finally got him to agree to give me both the $20 and the movies and he got super angry and accused me of lying to him about needing the $20 if i pay my babysitter $70 to watch my kids.
I told him that's bullshit because my kids father just got back in their lives and he agreed to watch the kids while i went out. Furthermore he added if i lied to him about needing the $20 he'll kick me out of his life and would never think twice about it .
I do need the $20...he eats atleast that a week ...and my kids father isnt working so i need the $20 to pay for stuff....
Now he hasnt been responding to me for hours. I think this is such bullshit. Everytime i text him he's out with his friends at a lounge or at applebees or Ihop and he comes to my house and NEVER takes me out anywhere...not even to one of those restaurants and now he says he's spending recklessly so he cant take me to the movies... I think this is such bullshit.
What should i do from this point?